I truly want to share this more often…. When it’s isn’t the dark secret…. What power does it hold over me
I don’t like it. I feel that my wife might thinks it’s her or think I’m a dud and leave me. It affects my insecurity.
"i’ll tell her …“you are the most attractive girl i’ve ever met and this really makes me want to cum when we are in bed. I can have longer sex after i cum the first time like in the morning or when i masturbate a day before. i really have fun with you in bed. i love doing anything sexual with you; love to kiss you, just sleep with you, massage you, would love to f*ck you. always thinking about you”.
I don’t mind it. It depends. Sometimes my wife is upset and other times understanding. Lately she’s been understanding, which I’m beyond grateful for, but it’s still hard to open up.
Oddly during the uglier times I’m more likely to be vulnerable. I guess my thinking is “why not? I’ve nothing to lose.”
It is awkward
It began as something I was defensive and frustrated about. It’s now morphed into something I and we joke about and that seems to have taken a lot of the pressure off me, leading to me being more relaxed , present and engaged with sex. Note - I’m in a LTR
I’ve just started dating a new girl. We haven’t had sex yet. She will probably be understanding. But it will be difficult to explain. I’ll really need to give it some thought.
Sort of confident
All good
I never have in my past, I kind of didn’t want to admit it. I just pasted it off as not in the mood or just tried to avoid it. I am not in a relationship now but I think in future I will try to as not talking about probably ruined my previous ones.
I think it would be beneficial
I’m fine with it, but I am in a very stable, long-term and great relationship with the love of my life, best friend and partner.
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Discussing it with my girl has deepened the experience. We both know I might not manage but I’m having a good time as long as we’re both willing and in the zone
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Not the easiest thing, but something that has to be said
Ready Aye Ready
3 days in and an overall anxiety wreck to begin with. Probably needed to wait to be looking for a girl, but here we are! If it goes that far though, will definitely bring it up beforehand
Happy to talk about anything with my partner - and election issues are put under less strain because of our openness
I am sold on it. The other way, ignoring and hoping you perform, causes stress. One day, I joked, “I look forward to disappointing you tonight.” That night was the first time I had no issues.
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Ok
I discussed my erection issues with a new partner. I reassured her that it wasn’t her and told her I wanted to hold off on sex until I got more comfortable. She was really receptive and we’ve been able to have sex and better my erection issues since then.