Okay now, still a little aware I donāt like to talk about it because that means it has happened again but she is very understanding.
Would love muchā¦ But my partner never wants to hear anything about it. She thinks i should be man enough to handle my erection. Its a difficult topic to handle with her. She feel that am seeing another woman reason why i canāt get it up and its normally stresses me up and tenses me much
Actuallyā¦this seems doable. I can be open and clear about this, but also, there is way less performance anxiety now. Since the only expectation is āfeeling goodā, the ātargetā to define such a successful intimate encounter becomes much larger and easier to hit.
I am afraidā¦ Not only of their reaction but about possibly gossiping it to their friendsā¦
I feel very nervous about it
We are fully open about it now, had to, its been going on for too long that I had to own it
OK. As a gay couple thereās already a good understanding that sometimes getting hard takes longer or doesnāt happen. I guess that means thereās less fear of judgement.
It feels like something I would have to bring up eventually rather than avoiding it & waiting until it happens. I feel like I can talk about it and feel heard but I also feel like it might steer someone away b/c itās complicated
I have had a few casual situations with girls who I feel are pretty understanding so I have said about my issues. They have always been really nice about it , sometimes it catches me of guard as I am probably harsher on myself than what they are!
Itās uncomfortable and embarrassing
It seems really embarrassing for me and I think itās the hardest part of my experience because I havenāt really told anybody I have this problem
Itā been going on for a couple years (weāre married) so my comfort level has gone up then down. Itās harder when I feel like our relationship isnāt doing well. But I do notice that our intimacy improves when we discuss it without it feeling like our relationship is in the balance
It is hard at first, but after Iāve done it, I realised my partner does not give so much importance to that like I used to do and I felt instantly a sense of getting rid of a big burden on my shoulders. Communication after that improved massively between us
It makes sense to talk about ED early on to pave the way for more difficult conversations later on.
Didnāt do it at first, hid it. But itās been happening all my life itās unavoidable. I have been married for 20 years and weāve had plenty of sex but now we know that itās a thing that we need to work through together.
I am happy to discuss my erection difficulties
It sure is stressing. You just donāt expect girls to understand it. The first thing you think is āāshe will say I dont like herāā or āāshe will say I am not a manāā. But you can also be surprised to know that a lot of them are really understanding and are even willing to help.
My partner knows bc I got ED while with herā¦ thereās not rly much to say at this point bc we know Iām not a great performer rn.
If we break up at some point and i look for new partners, Iāll be a bit worried about telling them. Iām currently in college, and I donāt want it going around the school that I have ED. How do other ppl navigate this?