Before and during sex is always in my head, and I getting hard, is it going to get soft midway… as much as I try as I does happen I can’t get it off of my head.
Porn has desensitized me and it is the reason why I can’t maintain an erection with my partner
That I should be instantly hard as soon as my pants come off.
I used to think I could only get hard and climax from porn.
That porn created an unrealistic expectation of sex.
That sex doesn’t typically last as long as it does in porn. Intellectually I know they do cuts and everything but when it comes to real life, that’s all out the window. When I don’t perform like I see porn stars do…
That porn has created unrealistic fantasies.
I also have this feeling that if I cannot last indefinitely that I’ve then failed. It causes me to be very locked in my head during sex which I think is a huge turn off to my wife.
More than porn, for me “quick” masturbation might be the problem
Porn makes real sexe unflavoured
Sex should be perfect
Does quick mastrubation teach your dick that working up to one climax is all that it needs to do?
I think masturbating to porn has conditioned me to cum too fast, but quitting porn hasn’t solved the issue at all
Porn sets unrealistic expectations
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There are right things and wrong things. There really aren’t. Wrong is what makes your partner uncomfortable but being open and communicating solves that. The challenge is overcoming my difficulty in communicating without fear. If someone doesn’t like something then so what, try something else.
I struggle with fidelity issues with imaging porn or another person other than my partner. I feel like I’m cheating because while I like so many things about him, and I’m sexually excited initially, I may not be able to maintain my hard on or cum.
I heard porn is an unhealthy way to relieve stress, but I can see while it’s easy to watch porn to get off because there’s no emotional bondage. I haven’t watched porn in over a year, but I’m sure if I did I would be able to enjoy it. It gives me strength to know that’s not my problem that it’s just anxiety and I need to find a better kink just to bring you to the moments with my wife And be fully present
I am in a relationship so thought watching or jerking off was like cheating on her.
That utilizing porn is like cheating on my partner