Inner critic is a younger version of me, and my inner coach is strangely enough a podcaster I really respect. The former just repeats the negative thoughts, while the latter just negates everything and continues to encourage me.
He’s a warm feeling with a warm voice that just said: “we got this man!” And that was all I needed to hear to feel good. Time to start believing!
Inner coach told off the critic who was putting me down
My inner coach is me - when teaching my softball kids how to be confident playing the sport. Mistakes re fine, failure is fine. Being positive and focused is key
He yelled at my inner critic and said that my inner critic has no idea what he is saying
Critic: Tell me I was broken around sex and wouldn’t be able to fix myself, I was too fundamentally flawed
Coach: Observed that I’d made great progress, so had already showed that statement to be totally untrue. And if it came back again, I’ve learnt the tools to manage the psychological issue, and therefore I will succeed again. The coach is a more confident, louder voice than the critic, and he speaks from alongside me whereas the critic faces me. I feel aligned to the coach and that he has the power to win against the critic.
My critic is the weak side of me, the one who is afraid and gives up after any failure. My coach is the manly side of me. I imagine a tough version of me in a tracksuit. He says as long as I’m breathing I can always try again!
Inner critic said I couldn’t perform, that I wasn’t the same man anymore. Inner coach told me I got this, I’ve done it 100s of times.
Me but all the good parts of myself, my hype man, the kind of voice I always wanted from my friends, the kind I always provide for others, the things my ex partners used to say about my sexual ability
My inner coach is my ideal self; strong, calm, smiling, confident. He’s well dressed, sophisticated, intelligent, and down to earth. He places his hands on my shoulders and tells me to relax and trust. My inner coach is able to diffuse a situation and see reason. He’s proud of me when I’m vulnerable and honest.
Super supportive! And remembering all the good experiences ive had and can have again
They are 2 voices, the critic in my right ear & the coach in my left. The coach is telling the critic to go f*ck himself, he knows it’s been fine more often than not, he knows the critic is just there to sabotage me, give me the chills, distract me & make me think only about the worst case scenario
Inner coach said that I’ve got this and you can successfully have sex. Whereas the inner critic said that I would fail again and my chest felt slightly restricted
Inner critic - no , we need to protect you from harm and embarrassment. You will feel anxious so cannot do anything.
Inner coach, a fabulous warm and kind person who says to the inner critic we deserve warmth and kindness, back off!
He’s me with confidence.
The inner critic is a worrier, the coach looks at things positive
My inner critic tells me that I am bound to go flaccid. It is hopeless and I might as well give up. My inner coach tells me to get out my head and just simply enjoy the feeling and sensations that are happening. She likes me for me and is non judgmental, she likes me because of aspects outside of the physical. Otherwise we wouldn’t be here in the first place.
Inner critic is a voice or feeling saying this is bad, it won’t feel good, it won’t work. Riddled with feelings of anxiety. Inner coach is a calm assertive and authoritative version of myself that refutes these ideas with the fact that it does work. To stop thinking, spectatoring, and to just relax and enjoy the moment
My inner coach is my voice but a strong version. My inner critic is a devious version of my voice. Whether or not this is optimal, this is what i have gravitated towards.
What do they say or do? My inner critic has been on on on! I never really realized that until these courses. My inner coach was repressed…what i thought was an inner coach was really the inner critic. I’m still working on it!
Cruel. It highlites my insecurities and tells me everybody around me is judging me for them. They hate me and dislike me. Obviously not true - I do a ton of emotional reasoning and mind reading.
My inner coach is supportive and most important realistic. It fact checks my inner critic. It is warm, and loving, and supportive.