The inner coach is my current self, when I am feeling relaxed and in control of myself. The critic is my anxious younger self, reminding me of past failures.
My inner critic said “you’re not good enough”. My coach gave examples of time when other people have complimented me. My coach was louder in the end, shouting “you are amazing, you are a legend” etc
Inner critic appears to be toxic women in my life. Inner coach is the me I like: quiet, direct, full of common sense.
Inner critic (a snake): you’re just gonna get frustrated again and have a bad time when you try to have sex. Inner coach (a blue jay): we can come up with many more positive approaches to this compared to your one and only worn out approach.
Big time! Mindset is everything
Reactive - he’s got my back.
Supportive
When my inner critic starts talking I can feel I get anxious feeling throughout my body
My inner coach says, there’s no reason to be anxious. You’ve always had this
My inner coach is a lion. Sharp, confident, supportive, focused, manly. My inner critic is a monkey. Negative, smart ass, tries to be funny. Inner critic was laughing at me, thinking I was crazy to try and have sex again. Inner coach was sharp and biting toward the critic. He reemphasized my work and my progress.
Inner coach of me calm relax funny, confident love to fuck
Inner critic - fuzzy creature, full of anxiety, stress and never wants sex
Lanner coach does not yet have a form, but I definitely felt the feeling of support you can do this and other elements like that when I was listening to the inner critic and inner coach go back-and-forth
I saw my inner critic as the dark side of me. Something I’ve used to protect myself for most of my life. My inner coach however is the light that’s been hiding this whole time. I don’t need that dark side anymore, as much as it has helped me it’s time to be positive and choose happiness. I’m not religious but I truly felt like battle between heaven and hell and hell was winning for a very long time.
He’s got my back and pumps me up. Tells me that my inner critic is wrong and that I got this. Just like riding a bike.
Critic was giving false encouragement which added pressure. Coach told me to take it easy
Inner voice Insecure looking at where things didn’t go wrong. Inner coach pointed out positive things I hadn’t really appreciated
There’s something wrong with his ability to have fun.
That’s not true. He has fun just as well as anyone else. If anything, he wants to master having fun. Maybe that’s what’s tripping him up, but there’s nothing broken in him. Just aspiration
I hear my voice but I am very confident and abrasive toward the critic. It dismisses mind reading and critic manipulation with cold hard facts.
Both are me, one saying that I am not good enough while the coach is reaffirming that I was plenty often enough
The inner critic started as a towering dark figure over my left shoulder, feeding me sensations of fear and disappointment. My inner coach appeared on my right side as a confident positive version of myself on a really good day. The coach was telling the critic that he was wrong, that I have it in me to be successful at whatever I want to do, and that I was better than the critic.
My inner critic/cheerleader reminded me how easily I can get an erection when the stress is gone and remind me how I’ve learned to get rid of the stress. They are excited to help me get an erection.