Inner critic reminds me that I need to tense up, avoid any intimate moments and enter the fight or flight response to any intimate situation. My newfound inner coach firmly lovingly reminds me that the fight/flight is NOT me. I am here to enjoy the present, relax and be in the moment with my beautiful partner. Fight/flight is NOT me anymore!
My inner coach is logical. He looks at past performance on the whole and assures me that my batting average hasn’t changed over the years. My inner critic assures me my downfall is coming and there will be no turning back. My coach knows I’ve turned back and done well plenty of times, even recently.
My inner coach is an assertive, strong, confident version of me. One that I see on good days.
My inner critic is cynical, joyless and takes joy in me not enjoying life or being happy. He’s quite dominant at times. He sees the world in absolute, black and white ways.
My coach (a strong female friend) stepped in front of me to defend me and yell at the critic. My critic kept throwing images of failure at me.
My inner critic is like a high school gym teacher, saying that I need to be a man. My inner coach is a strong compassionate woman who tells him that I’m fine just the way I am.
Inner critic is Gothmog sitting on right side. Inner coach is Gandalf the Grey on left. Critic said that you always fail and that it’s always the same. Coach pointed out that it isn’t always the same and that when the critic isn’t there, things are the best they ever are.
My inner critic is a little weasel on my right shoulder, afraid and pessimistic. My inner coach is a strong and kind king, he’s on my left shoulder and he overpowers the inner critic.
I imagined a tennis rally with (what I perceive to be) a negative and entitled player like Djokovic giving my dark thoughts and (what I perceive to be) a positive and accomplished player like Federer smashing the ball back with ease and grace during this conversation lol
My inner critic is me in my negative state. My inner coach is literally Coach from new girl (I know, weird) telling me not to listen to the critic, encouraging me and motivating me that my problems are temporary, and to stick at it.
The inner critic shows me images of times when I was tired and couldn’t get hard.
My inner coach is my good friend Barry, a person who always gives it his all no matter what, and who encourages me to push myself. He’s there, having my back and shouting encouragement. He calls.up past evidence to counter the inner critic. The inner critic is an old radio, barring my grandad’s voice, trying to remind me that I’m not good enough for my girlfriend.
Up until now my inner critic appeared as a feeling of dread inside my chest. During this exercise I made it take shape, as a cloud-like monster with a mischievous expression. My inner coach was me without my worries and anxiety. The critic started by saying I’m not able to stay hard, and in some cases, get hard. My coach responded by saying that’s simply not true, I get hard when jerking off, and I do get hard when I’m with someone and not feeling a lot of pressure. My critic replied back saying even if we get hard, I’ll just cum too fast once I’m inside the guy. My coach fought back saying that the critic puts too much pressure on us, that there is a lot of fun to be had before getting to penetration, and that penetration can take many different forms using hands, and toys, it doesn’t need to involve my dick the entire time. Breaks are okay.
Very logical; encourages through evidence. I’m still struggling to put “a face” on it. As a very visual person, doing so might be helpful.
Critic it won’t work- coach you got this!
Inner coach told me I’ll be soft, I can’t penetrate and that’s backed by evidence. My inner coach told me that that’s not true. I am perfectly healthy and I’m improving and I’ll get there.
My dad
My critic is me as I was going through this problem the first time with my first gf. My coach is me 1-2 years later when my gf and I had sex all the time. The coach was telling my critic I did it once I’ll just do it again and it’s ridiculous and silly I can’t rn
I imagined a Yin and Yang scenario, where the inner critic has complete control and so my world is completely unbalanced. My inner coach helped me restore some balance and tell me things are okay
It’s like a flowing of warmth and self compassion in my chest.
My inner coach has my back and tells my critic to back off!