I have expectations of what my girlfriend considers ‘good’ sex, like being rock hard and able to go at it for at least 20-30 minutes, like we used to. Even though she says that’s not what she desires at all, now that I can’t seem to do it even if I want to, so the choice having been taken away from me, feels like I’m failing. It’s creates a lot of frustration for me
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I am scared that i wont preform well enough for a second time. When my inner critic takes ofer i cant stop it.
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My inner critic is harsh and brutal. The thought of having a bad encounter arises and the thought of having intercourse constantly throughout life stresses me out. It’s weird it’s like you desire intimacy but are also afraid of it. Maybe its also due to what society tells us and how it feels that if I don’t perform good enough I’ll get abandoned and forgotten
My inner critic doubts my performance, it says I’m not enjoying it so just give up, it says that the pressure on you to perform to don’t stuff this up
I crave to have sex with my wife when when it comes down to it I’m thinking much like I know I’m going to lose my erection or if we change positions I lose it quick we recently got married and the first month Ididnt have that problem now all of sudden I’m doubting myself I just trying to perform and keep up I thought I was going to be the one wanting to do it all the time but I’m the having the problem here
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It’s happened before, it’s going to happen again. I need to wait until i haven’t masturbated for a week. I need Viagra. I need a pump. I need to lose weight and look sexier. I know she won’t enjoy it. I’m not ready. It’s not ready.
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My inner critic makes me wonder if they’re enjoying it, do they look like they’re enjoying it? Do they sound like they’re enjoying it? Then it makes me wonder am I? It started off with causing me to take a long time to come. Gradually that worsened into I’m not going to come, then what’s the point if won’t come, then I’d go soft. Now it’s all good while foreplay, can remain erect. Once it progresses and penetration will happen, he likes to go to sleep.
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I feel like if I don’t eat properly, sleep properly or exercise properly the day of sex, that I won’t perform well. My inner critic says to stay healthy before sex so that my erection will stay hard for longer.
I get hard during foreplay and then begin thinking will it last? What if it goes? Has it gone yet? What will I do if I can’t perform? Etc. … within secs of the questions starting I can feel the erection fading. No amount of will can change or effect it. I feel powerless and frustrated
My inner critic is always around, reminding me that my dick being erect is the determining factor in whether or not I’ll have sex. And then it analyzes. The entire day. “What if you can’t get hard tonight? What if you get hard and then lose it? How long will you be hard? Can you satisfy her without being hard? Is she tired of this? Will she leave you over this if it doesn’t work tonigh?” Then during foreplay I usually can get erect, and it’s followed by the second barrage of questions. “You’re hard now, but will you be in a couple minutes? Are you hard enough to insert? If you do, will it stay hard? What if she attempts to change positions?” After a success or failure, it’sthe same amount of criticism. “Okay you had sex, but what if she expects this every time? What if you regress? What if it gets worse? Should you take pills? What if the pills don’t make a difference because it’s all in your head?” Or “Didn’t work again. Does she pity you? Does she find you unattractive now because of this? How long is she willing to put up with your problem? Does she deserve you putting her through this? Will this make her feel unattractive? Will I be alone forever because of this?”
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I’m not sure just like it’s me in my own head being nervous and scared about my performance but then I want to have sex but part of me doesn’t want to cause of the anxiety
I’m at the start of a new relationship and I think in new situations I can’t get hard or else I won’t stay hard. Before we start foreplay my inner thoughts are questioning if I’ll be able to. The more occasions it happens the more preemptively embarrassed I am and worry that it’s going on too long and she’ll get tired of waiting for that part to happen. As soon as I think about it I know it’s gonna be gone.
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At first my inner cries loud as it could be but along this personal journey I’ve noticed the thoughts and thought I got rid of it but now I notice it’s still lurking no problem though
My inner critic will often update me on how my penis is performing taking me out of the intimacy which got me hard in the first place;
“You’re Still hard focus on keeping it” “you feel softer are you losing it?” “you know it’s going soft just stop”
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A worry about body perception, and a sensation of never looking hot enough, or being able to shake the feeling that a part of my body is loose & having that distract me with doubt.
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My inner critic is sure I’ll lose my erection and always let’s me know it. When I’m having sex it is constantly drawing my focus to how hard my penis is and is looking for signs it is softening, which it then does.
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My inner critic questions me “if I will get hard?” and " If I will be hard enough to satisfy her". Once that thought comes to my mind, that’s where my focus is, and it’s a no-win situation from there!
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What if I’m not good enough
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Will I embarrass myself again? Focus on not fucking this up.
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Will I embarrass myself again by not attaining an erection with the first 2 sexual interaction with a girl. Will I need to rely on meds to get an erection forever? Is my penis big?
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