Nervous that I’ll disappoint my partner, that I won’t get hard fast enough or hard enough, that I won’t be big enough to satisfy her, that I won’t stay hard long enough if I do get hard.
It feels like there is a total disconnect between my mental and physical desire. I’m my mind I feel so my desire, so captivated by her beauty, her smell, the feel of her skin, the sound of her voice, but my body doesn’t respond. I feel like I’ll never satisfy her.
Scared that I will not perform well in bed thus I struggle to get an erection
Scared & pressured to perform which makes me do the opposite. Worried I will let my partner down & disappointed if I don’t keep it up
It says, “Why bother? You know you’ll disappoint.” It says it in a protective way, like please spare yourself the embarrassment.
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It kind of comes out at me and feels like it just takes away sensation through making taking my confidence away. If I let it wonder then I go soft or struggle to cum.
My inner critic is my own voice, and I say things like “don’t you remember what happened last time? Save yourself the shame and get the hell out of this. you’re better off alone and beating off. You are pathetic.”
Followed by flashbacks of every bad experience and deep waves of overwhelming anxiety and fear of falling into another deep depression.
My partner and I had a discussion where we thought they had a std but they don’t and the constant fear gets me even though I know she is safe
My inner critic that I need to last longer and perform better on sex so that my partner will be satisfied
My inner critic is my worst enemy in bed. As soon as any impotence thoughts come up I begin to lose it. All I try to do is perform better than last time and satisfying my partner
Terrible i always think i wont get up or last long
My inner critic demoralizes me constantly. Whether its in bed saying I wont last long enough or at work saying im not working fast enough and I’ll get fired. Its like having someone follow you around and judge your every move. It wants to control my life and beat me down, but I wont let it do that anymore.
Just very worrisome. Mainly because I want to perform well and ensure I won’t lose it during foreplay or when we’re having sex.
I’m not necessarily harsh on myself. I just know that im unable to get erections during foreplay. It’s partly porn induced and partly anxiety or performance induced. I’ve also never had sex before so that doesn’t help. The worry of not being able to get it up is ever looming
My wife wants to make deep passionate love on a daily basis. Sometimes more than once a day. I have difficulty connecting on an emotional level. The pressure to keep up has gotten to me and I’m regularly experiencing performance anxiety. It is with me when I wake up in the morning. I’m always thinking about the next time she is going to want to and how I’m going to fail.
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My inner critic almost stops me wanting sex altogether, knowing it will likely not go well, it’s most frustrating knowing this wasn’t an issue in the past and is likely caused by prolonged periods without sex where I have watched more porn than I should
I use to have many different partners, having attachment issues. I noticed once i got in longer term relationships the issue would happen. Now in my longest, even on my own it is difficult to keep an erection. And now I’m in my head on this everyday which makes me less confident.
Assumes the worst. Tells me I’m not good enough
My wife wants to have sed everyday and I just worry I won’t be able to satisfy her so I don’t even try
My inner critic tellse that I won’t meet someone after my last break up and that when I have sex with a girl they won’t like it
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