My inner critic is me, and I struggle listening to myself criticise things that I can’t control
My inner critic is my own voice coming from somewhere in front of me.
Mine just keeps asking if it’s working and freaking me out that it’s not. The problem is I’m starting to forget what it’s like to have sex without these thoughts. I’m forgetting what l was like when l was great in bed not that long ago.
My inner critic tells me I’m not fit enough and that my partner is going to see me as a squishy, flabby meatsack, that I don’t have the stamina to please her, and that even if I somehow find the stamina that I won’t be hard enough for long enough. For reference, I’m not remotely out of shape, so I don’t know where this comes from.
My inner critic sounds kind of like me but a bad version of me that doesn’t believe in me and is convincing me that I can’t do what I should be able to do
There Sure is an inner dialogue going on. Words my ex has said, the way she treated me. Used sex as a tool of manipulation.
Most of it caused by my ex’s persistent rejection of sex while gaslighting me telling me why did I always want sex. Also quite the man hater and feminist.
Looks upon male sexuality as “dirty dogs”.
Married with 3 kids you get trapped.
At one point I had huge panic attack over endless rejection and needed 5 weeks off work.
My response was to avoid depression and thoughts of self harm by meditating myself into crushing my sexual desire. Apparently it worked. Lots of destructive mantras etc.
Fortunately my new partner is very switched on and we are working on fixing this whilst trying Mojo.
I am having small wins.
We are both very passionate people.
She gets me so fired up erection issues almost vanish cause I am no longer in my thoughts.
We’ve had sex 4 times and we discuss everything.
She herself did not know how to have sex at 47, married for 27 years, I have helped he in that regard.
If you have a top notch partner get them involved in the process. How they interact with you makes a “huge” difference.
My inner critic does not have a voice. It’s a general dread of the sexual encounter, simmering beneath the surface and always present.
My inner critic reminds me of me when I’m nervous or feeling down
My inner critic says it wont work and that this encounter is going to get awkward. Its in my chest as much as my head
I have only just started to experience erectile disfunction. I’m in a new relationship with a woman who I really like, but after a couple of weeks of being sexually active, she told me about her very high sex drive and a few exploits and I’m concerned I’ve been intimidated by this. Or is it just an age thing?
My inner critic questions me and makes me question how I’m doing during sex
It’s some weird part of myself telling me I’m not worthy of pleasure. Wtf? Were did that come from? Wormtongue, that’s the one!
My inner critic is my own voice and tells me that I am worried that my partner won’t respond to me because of my past erection issues. I am concerned that I won’t be able to get an erection. I used to be afraid of penetration from the pain.
They have no physicality and exist just in my head. They are judgemental and puts doubts in my head about my relationship with my partner.
The anxiety is constant. I feel like people can see through me and my lack of confidence that I carry. its at the point that we just avoid the thing all together. The depth of our relationship is so thin because we lack this really crucial connection but at this point we are both hesitant to engage and I know I have the prospect of failure in mind at all times. It’s too disappointing - to have a woman who I really love within an arms reach but failing to make this relationship as good and fulfilling as it could be. The fear of failure and past failures just lives in the back of my mind - a painful weight that keeps me from moving forward and being a great confident man.
When I was having the worst year of my life(24 hour shift, 15 hour lab, then 9 hours class, repeat for one year) I had some minor depression issues and it caused me to have a hard time. At first my wife was angry, thought that she wasn’t good enough anymore. When she doesn’t pick the time, everything is ok. But when she says hey we got 10 minutes to get this going or my son starts screaming in the other room, it just shuts me down. I feel like I’m back in that first moment. I’m so afraid of having a repeat of that incident that it keeps repeating itself.
It’s my own voice, reminding me of past issues and telling me there’s a likelihood it’ll happen again, whether hours from now or in the moment of being with someone. Just a little tiny voice in the back of my head thinking I might as well start planning an apology or an excuse now because it’s not going to work.
I just hear my own voice. Strained, exasperated. Trying to talk my way through things. Trying to be rational. I think maybe it’s pulling me out of feeling my own body. Saying “come on come on,” try this try that.
My inner critic is my own voice. He is like a commentator who comments about my every action and once things get ugly gets very critical and just kills the mood to the point I cant get back from it.
I’m good looking, good body, good at communicating
Not confident about erections
Avoid being awkward putting on a condom
inner critic is talking to me and causes me to be nervous and not in the moment and makes me lose an erection
think its my own voice
they keep going on in my head and it overcomes the situation im in in real life
don’t know what clothes they would wear
My inner critic is my own voice inside my head. Although when I try to identify my inner critic, I do that using a voice in my head. So it’s like two choices, one looking for the other one or you can say the inner critic trying to identify itself. LMAO.
The inner critic starts off by pumping me up, saying stuff like “everything’s gonna be fine”, “You can do it”, “you just have to relax and enjoy the moment”, “your girl is so hot”. If everything goes right and my positive thoughts stay in line, i do end up having great sex. But if I catch my dick losing erection slightly, the inner critic panics and rarely comes back on track. From there all i can hear are panicky thoughts going like, “holy shit!! Don’t lose it”, “no, no, no, why? Why?”