I just don’t believe it;s going to work. It’s not like a voice. I just don’t have any confidence.
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This. 100% this.
I know my equipment works ok ,but after several failings with my wife and her frustration with me, my head keeps wondering if it will happen again. I’m telling myself, “You better make it great this time, you really got to wow her tonight, you’ve got to knock it out of the park”. This just puts undue pressure on me to perform and does not end well. I just need to get out of my own head.
My inner critic has the voice of the popular girl from school. She shouts, she mocks, and she tells me to give up. She’s a bully, much more confident than I am and with apparently much greater knowledge and quality of life in these intimate things.
I think i psych myself out before and during sex way too often
My inner voice is in my head with my own voice. It tells me what if you can’t get an erection, it’s happened before it might happen again. When we then have sex it tells me that I better cum soon otherwise you’ll go limp. At least when you’ve cum you have an excuse.
It’s not a voice, it’s a sudden prompt or thought. Maybe it is a voice…harsh immediate reactionary voice, sudden prompt or thought.
She thinks my penis is small, she is not enjoying this.
Doesn’t sound like me. Feels like part of me, in my head only though. Really shrill annoying voice. A lot of thinking, not feeling or enjoying or being in the moment. Just feel a little embarrassed with a slight awkward smile. Unnatural movements.
Mine is saying stuff like, “am I the smallest she’s ever had?” “Am I hard enough in my pants for her?” “Will she like it?” More of a medium whisper, my voice voice
My inner critic has my voice but offers up conflicting statements. It tries to get me to calm down and enjoy the moment but at the same time offers me thoughts like “this isn’t going to work.” Its a constant battle in my head.
No voice for me, just great anxiety that stop my erection just before penetration ! Which than makes me very fourstrated with myself. Then it turns me off.
I see my inner voice as myself, wearing a t shirt just yelling at me. YOU HAVE TO GET IT UP. YOU HAVE TO. it makes me distracted. Or I try really hard to feel my partner and imagine it but I end up just collapsing in on myself and it sucks, I shy away.
I completely second what
it’s just my own voice, putting pressure on to satisfy my partner and don’t let myself down. somethings in life I do my best under pressure, but it’s been a completely negative experience in sex
My inner critic is a not saying much, but it is afraid. “Oh no is it not working?” “Shouldn’t it be hard by now?” “It’s not getting hard…” and from there on, it’s downward spiral.
It’s a feeling that reminds me of the negative outcome that might be… and because that’s what I am thinking of, it comes true.
I certainly have an inner critic, it’s silent when I’m with my girlfriend but I know it’s there now & again because i get intermittent ED.
However, it’s very loud during other activities, like if i make a small trivial mistake, I literally say ‘you f@&king idiot’. So i reckon being hard on myself doesn’t help. I’ve been practicing a kinder voice if i make a mistake like ‘ah, you’re human, learn & try again’. I reckon it helps me take responsibility, then i can take positive action.
My inner critic is just this insidious voice that starts by scraping at my insecurity about my appearance, and slowly creeps into my confidence in my abilities in the bedroom. It gets “louder” the closer I get to sex and begins screaming when I try to put on that condom. It’s the worst, and I want to conquer it.
This is really relatable
I always think my penis is not good enough especially with the latest person who talks about how good others have been
I am good