I am sure porn during my sexless phase was a precursor to my performance anxiety. I have stopped 2 months ago and I don’t miss it. Mindful masturbation is way more intense.
Porn is the most poisonous drug out there because it’s so subtle. I’ve been clean for a year and it changed my life for the better. You don’t realize how bad the effects are until you are off of it. Subconsciously it sets unrealistic standards for you partner and distorts your turn ons. Get off of it. Build a loving relationship with your woman and learn to love being intimate with her and her only. Don’t look at other women with desire it only shows down your recovery. That’s what worked for me. Good luck.
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I use porn primarily as stress relief at the end of a day, but the problem is that I feel guilty about it. If I can’t overcome these feelings of guilt, it might be better to cut out completely, but the goal is to have a healthier relationship with it so when I do choose to use it I don’t feel badly.
Stress reliever where i feel comfortable and have no erection issues
I think I might be using porn to relief stress and feeling of loneliness
It all becomes a bit samey and I end up hunting through loads for something will turn me on enough to ejaculate
The unconscious expectations and standards porn as led me to believe about sex
On my “day-away” after spending time at my partners house, which normally has sex that’s perfectly fine, I’ll feel compelled to watch porn and masturbate, which fuels shame, which then makes the next time I see my partner a little nervous
I notice i cum VERY quickly to porn now. But when i was younger i could watch a whole 10 minute video without finishing. What has changed about me?
I’ve stopped porn over a year and think it might have caused weak pelvic floor not watching it feel like I have less sex drive
That it really is anxiety which is at the centre of my ED. While
I currently feel good after abstaining for a month and now greatly reducing my masturbation and eliminating porn-viewing (after finding other ways to self-soothe day-to-day), I was wrong about porn and masturbation being in and of themselves the core of my difficulty getting it up with my partner.
It programmed me to want to watch certain things, it was training me to watch stuff& only like that
I’m watching it for fun, sometimes it takes an hour to cum. I don’t feel guilty about it.
For years have just been compulsively watching porn before bed (if not with my partner) as almost a release before sleep. Don’t even enjoy it all that much
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Sometimes I leave it for weeks then binge for a half day. It messes me up for a few days afterwards
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That it’s not recognized by most modern entities as an addiction.
Turkey Basters are used to make woman squirt
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Its an easy way to get hard, an get off quickly.
Since starting mojo (30 days ago) I tried to stop all porn. The reason is I’m having trouble getting and staying hard with a partner. AND, if I watch porn solo I can achieve an erection I’d be proud to share with a partner. So, ummmm, this feels like a problem and I’d rather be hard with a woman and do without the porn
Porn isnt bad its the shame i feel that is bad, i need to look within and find the problem
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