Not to feel guilty for watching it and comparing myself in bed to the videos
I want to cut it out of my life. I want to lust over real people and the connections that follow. Not “blow off steam” with images and depictions. I think porn desensitization is a huge factor of my anxiety when it comes to sex. Porn is so stimulating for me. I can feel a complete difference when watching porn as opposed to being with a girl.
Porn for me is just waves of lustful and deep sexual energy, I begin seeking more and more of those waves. For every 10 ‘waves’ I get in porn, I may only get 3 with a girl and I want that to change. I want stronger connections and to not have sexual expectations with women.
Not to compare myself to unrealistic heavily edited videos of professionals
Not feeling guilty afterwards. Not defaulting right away to porn when I’m bored and alone.
Just want to pack it in entirely so when I’m having sex I’m aroused, excited and attracted to a normal female body instead of feeling underwhelmed due to it not looking like what you see on the internet, I used to be amazed by the female body in general and obviously that’s why I watched porn in the first place but now I can kind of take it or leave it, and now watch porn for basically the slightest dopamine hit. How good would my sex life be if I cut out porn entirely? Probs amazing but yeah I relate to what it’s saying about a compulsive personality, a lot of the time I have no willpower
I’d rather only watch it occasionally, to not have the need for it and enjoy it as part of foreplay with a partner.
Not watched it in a couple of weeks now and feel good about that.
I want to cut it out, like sugar, and replace it with something really fulfilling. It’s probably never going to make me more virile or energetic or confident so what’s the point?
I want to stop defaulting to porn as my primary way of destressing, or for when I’m feeling more aroused in the mornings. Instead, I’d like to revert to a more healthy habit like learning to play my ukelele again or read a book, or just go and take my morning shower instead.
When I do watch it, I want to be more mindful about the type of porn I do wat h and how to deal with any feelings of guilt that I get afterwards.
I may be got damaged from watching porn not a lot tho . After years of watching porn I found a dirty gate with my exes . I started wanting them to have sex and film it for me . And they were happy to do it …etc . I feel horrible! I don’t want to stay in this I can get over it but it’s so difficult. I don’t want to do it anymore I don’t know how to switch my mind and just turn it off . I want to stop liking to watch my girlfriends having sex with other man . All this because of porn!
I think I may have an interesting take on this one. I never had a negative relationship with porn. I used it once a day, rarely ever more than that, since I was around 15. I wouldn’t use it on days I was getting laid (I dated the same girl from just barely 17 though 24). Even after her, still the same thing. I started having erections issues after the first time I lost my erection in January of 2022. Pretty soon a after, I decided it was because of porn and quit. Now, it seems to have only gotten worse. In that tike frame, porn changed from a regular part of life to something I felt shame for when I “relapsed”. The men in porn went from simply virtual versions of myself, to people I compared myself to and who poked at my inner critic. Not sure what to think of all of that.
I think I may have an interesting take on this one. I never had a negative relationship with porn. I used it once a day, rarely ever more than that, since I was around 15. I wouldn’t use it on days I was getting laid (I dated the same girl from just barely 17 though 24). Even after her, still the same thing. I started having erections issues after the first time I lost my erection in January of 2022. Pretty soon a after, I decided it was because of porn and quit. Now, it seems to have only gotten worse. In that tike frame, porn changed from a regular part of life to something I felt shame for when I “relapsed”. The men in porn went from simply virtual versions of myself, to people I compared myself to and who poked at my inner critic. Not sure what to think of all of that. I guess my goal is to get back to my old relationship with it, when I would use it almost as a learning experience, almost like I was on a sports team and watching film. It was just watching myself.
I tend to use porn when I’m bored working from home. I’ll go to the bathroom and quickly masturbate. Afterwards I feel like a goblin who needed to retreat to his cave to do something shameful.
I want to stop watching porn just because I’m bored. I want to be able to recognise that I’m horny rather than manufacture horniness in myself. And, when I watch porn I want to do so in a relaxed environment, engaging all my senses, not just whacking one out in the bathroom as quickly as possible
I want to make a cutback and change my relationship with it. I’m prone to use it when I’m depressed, and when my brain craves the chemicals a “PMO” releases. After a heavy drinking binge, I’m prone to watching multiple times a day, for days in a row afterwards, so I’m hoping sobriety helps. To go from that to once a week, to once a month would be ideal.
I watch it when I’m bored, but I’ve put it down completely lately and only watch it when I feel like it’s necessary. I feel like I use to watch it too often. It was definitely a safe get away. But I’ve learned to turn the screen off and try different things to distract me.
I felt guilt because I’ve read a lot recently that porn is bad for you. After reading this I feel comfortable and won’t have the guilt after I masturbate, it has lifted a weight off of my shoulders.
Pause my usage, as I can only get aroused while looking at a digital image/screen.
The frequency, intensity and variety.
Nothing. I’ve phased out porn almost completely from my life, and now only watch it occasionally/for fun/for pleasure, and not in a compulsive way like back in the days.
I want to watch it with my partner and see what she’s into, or what she thinks of the videos I’m into, which I think will help us feel closer and I will feel less potential shame about what arouses me or what her expectations are of me
I want to be more comfortable having sex with my partner than masturbating with porn.