To what extent are sexual fantasies part of your life and relationships?

My partner doesn’t really help in my orgasm. And if at all? Half heartedly or leaves me to finish myself off…so, my fantasies are an absolute must. When having sex with others, I have trouble between being in the moment and fantasizing.

I use fantasies before going to bed to start getting in the mood

Brought up a few different ones, pretty vanilla ones… no dice. Haven’t shared any of the kinkier ones. It’s just not her thing. Used to really make me mad but I’ve since learned how to deal with things like that. We’re two different people and I can either be ok with her decision on leave. And I ain’t leaving.

They are becoming a regular feature… they are really important to me.

I use them often.

I fantasize a lot but in the past ive rejected those fantasies because I used to think that was cheating (i had a tendency to think of other girls). But I wanna put it into practice now, since Ive learned thats not necessarily cheating.

Sexual fantasies have never really been part of my life. I guess this is due to the fact that I’m not the most comfortable being that open. But now I think it could be a great tool for dealing with performance anxiety.

Not so much, but I’m noticing more and more how pre-arousal helps with sexual performance. I can see how adding fantasies to the mix can help.