To what extent are sexual fantasies part of your life and relationships?

A lot and I didn’t know it was normal, I thought I was super weird and neurotic.

One thing I’m struggling with is how to deploy a fantasy during sex without it being spectatoring

Been single after separation for 3 years, so no real relationship to share with

Ok lll

As a teenager they were very present, especially in dreams. But as I’ve used porn more & more, they’re less present. I would like them back

It drives me wild for a girl to watch me masturbate :eggplant:

Not a part of my life w my partner but they are strictly for myself.

I’d want to think more about my own. I’m naturally very dominant and want to explore more ways to tie girls up. And more ways for them to submit that they agree with.

My most recent sexual partner fully embraced the dom side of me which really turned me on but i had to think of other things to finish strangely and relied on pills to get hard initially so as to deal with the ed which i didn’t tell her about. I want to use fantasies over porn which I’ve stopped watching since doing this and think this is healthier and will help to improve erections

I’d like to have other to go fantasies besides my go to taboo when in the moment and need to get hard

I’m also bi and my partner knows and seems okay with it but she doesn’t know how big a part that plays in my fantasies. I’m not sure how much to reveal since a lot of it is stuff that she can’t fulfill.


I feel like I can be fairly open in sharing a lot of this with my wife, but I feel more concerned with MY insecurities learning about hers.

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I generally forget about fantasy, but focusing on it can get me out of an anxiety loop

Not right now but I will likely include them if they will improve my situation

They are not currently. Will try to share fantasy that doesn’t involve another person

I’ve shared and they seem to go well, at least when talking in the heat of the moment

I could use sexual fantasies more Deliberately. Concentrate on the m more intently when I’m having one.

Fantasise more often and more confidently. I often find myself telling myself that would not work for me, which is silly as women find me attractive and I have never had trouble attracting women.

I want to orient myself away from sexual fantasies that I’ve seen or developed from porn and focus on real life situations that I’ve experienced or want to experience. That way I can zone in on being a central character in the fantasy and bring myself into the present moment more with my partner. Moving away from the internet and into the real world.

I would like to share more how I love chubby women, and would love her to be chubbier too.