Is there anybody thought of a threesome so wife can get satisfied, itās been crossing my mind because itās not fair to her I canāt get hard, I donāt know how I would handle it , but watching vids, the woman seems to enjoy it, maybe that wit get it going.
I try to talk to her about it but she donāt say much, but she is open to it at times.
I may be making a mistake but I really donāt care anymore because Iām tired of letting her down.
It would be nice to feel like a man again
IME, I found watching my wife play with another guy a big turn on. That said, itās a discussion you both need to have and feel comfortable about. Hard to really know how youāll feel until the time comes. It would also be important to set some rules so that if it gets too uncomfortable for either of you, you can stop.
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Years ago I had a āthreesomeā with my longtime (7years) gf and my best friend who Iād been buddies with since childhood. I say threesome very loosely because as soon as it started I couldnāt get hard. I was all for it but it was over stimulating in so many ways. Emotionally, visually, audially. I just stood and watched and tried my best to get hard. I was much younger then and wish I had tried to look at it differently or had done more research on it. I thought something was wrong with me cuz my buddy was hard and here I couldnāt even get a half chub. I ended up cumming with a limp cock in my hand feverishly yanking my limp dick while I watched my friend pound the fuck out of the woman I loved(not together anymore and Iām happily with someone else) and the way she reacted to his hard dick really left me in a fog of confusion cuz I honestly loved watching it but it was damaging to my erections.
I really donāt think would make you feel like a man. Just my opinion but itās unlikely this is the answer.
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I take issue with you saying āit is not fairā. You guys are married. ED is as much her problem than it is yours.
As with having someone else have sex with your wife, I donāt think it is a good idea and I definitely wouldnāt do it. But this is coming from someone who feels like watching his wife have sex with someone else is a horrible nightmare and I canāt understand how it is arousing at all. I guess if you can really deal with it without feeling shame it can be fine, especially when you are in an open relationship and you are also allowed to have sex with someone else.
Maybe I am wrong, but even in that case I donāt see how it improves the root causes of your ED, whatever they might be.
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agree. The idea of it would give me trauma and Iād never get erect again
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Agreed. Thought of my partner with someone else is one of the last things I want to see or even think about.
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I encouraged/suggested my wife spent a night with her ex a few weeks ago. Iām not suggesting it as a cure all and not for everyone, but it gave me a little boost
And she just did it? Is it something youāve done before?
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Yes. A bit more complicated than I make it sound, but yes. It started off just catching up about old times and mutual friends - and on my suggestion she stayed over.
Lots of complex thoughts and emotions the following day, but basically I couldnāt get enough of her.
Maybe not a permanent cure for my ED, but a fun distraction for us both.
I couldnāt/wouldnāt want to watch. But it is a no pressure bit of fun, thinking of her having some fun
Not sure I would say she ājustā did it. But yes, she stayed with her ex for the night. They have stayed friends and kept in touch. No regrets all round
When you become husband and wife, everything is a team effort. If one of you struggles, you both struggle. Finding another man to satisfy her is an easy fix for both of you. The right thing to do is stay resilient with this app and really commit for a year to learning and growing together as much as you both can.
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A big part of me understands why you wouldnāt want to watch but honestly a big part of me would want to watch it