Managed sex last night for the first time without pills in 16 months.
I initially started taking pills because it had been so long without any action that I feel like I needed a hand getting back out there with no anxieties. It didn’t work out great for me as there were underlying mental issues but after using this app I had a couple successes.
Yesterday I spent the day with a girl I have been seeing and went back to hers after. We initiated sex and I didn’t take a pill as I was only taking them while drinking but I was nervous and couldn’t get hard. She told me she didn’t care but I still felt unsatisfied and was beginning to lose hope that I would be able to perform.
However we persisted and later on managed 2 rounds and went again the morning after. Super happy and feel like I have got my trust in my body back.
Some things which helped me:
Waxing and waning helped me believe that just because I couldn’t get it up at first didn’t mean it was over.
We were already naked and cuddling in bed so there was no transition period for taking off clothes and giving me time to get in my head.
Lots of self confidence and dirty talk helped me to stop spectating and be more in the moment.
Hope this helps at least someone. Keep up the programme and have faith in yourselves