Low Libido, ED

[pretty-peach-tarsier]

I’m 23 and I met my first gf end of November last year. I was big on porn and masturbation from about 12 through highschool, slowing down more in the last few years. When I met her and started getting physical, I realised I had an issue where I couldn’t feel aroused and if I got an erection anywhere it was about 60-70% and wouldn’t last more than a minute.

We’ve had a lot of discussions about it and I now have a bit of anxiety around any physical stuff. We tried penetration but it went soft a minute in. Got blood work done, everything’s fine and doctor prescribed cialis, it works a lot better like she’s able to give me BJs and HJs but when it comes to sex it just doesn’t stay up.

I’m not sure what to do, I quit porn the day I met her but it’s been 3 months since then. I feel like I’m in a flatline right now where I just cannot get erections and arousal at all.

Should I quit masturbating completely? How much longer do I have to wait? Will my erection come back full strength ever? Will my arousal come back? This flatline feeling really sucks and puts a lot of strain on our relationship.

Sorry this is so long but if anyone has been through this or has solid advice, please help me I’ve been trying endlessly to solve this since the start of the year.

[superb-fuchsia-asp]

Same situation.
I was daily solo/porn.
Cut down to 1x week a few months ago. I noticed that Cialis works best for me the morning after I take it. Also works great solo!! Which leads me to believe my issue is in my head. I’m very open with my gf. (7mo) she is super understanding, encouraging and will do literally anything that I ask to help me in the situation. I change suggested that she be super forward with me like talking kinda naughty, don’t ask if I want you to try something outside of her comfort zone, just do it- I won’t judge.
The other morning we didn’t have a lot of time, she asked me to finger her as she played with a toy…. Not sure what was hotter- the ask or the act?? Her getting vulnerable with me triggered my brain to know she trusts me and that’s helped me in my erection journey…
Stay off the porn.
If you solo- add lube.
Try left handed.
Try a fleshlite or sleeve to simulate the real thing.
Use the images of her in your head.
Most of all stick with the app. Do the exercises.
Read all the other topics and comments.
Good luck brother!!

[relative-plum-goat]

I do find 1 x per week is a nice balance for me, and when you do it, do it without porn and with lune and really enjoy it. Sometimes I try to take as long as I can. That way you get to experience it and let the horniness build up. But maybe there is a rhythm that might suit you. Could be less than that.