It has been several months since I experienced anything close to sexual desire, that chemical, urgent feeling. Once I started noticing my ED, it virtually disappeared. Since then, all masturbation and porn use has been more like a test to see if I could get it up and maintain it, without any real arousal. I’ve quit porn (never had much of a habit to begin with) and masturbation, but still have yet to feel any inkling of arousal beyond a curiosity to see if I can get it up. I’m 21 and was quite active up until 9 months ago, and then it just disappeared. Has anyone else had this problem? If so, what do you recommend to revive arousal and desire?
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It happens to me after an ED episode. In my case the arousal gets back after having good sex a couple of times, but it usually takes weeks or even months. My suggestion is to stay calm and try sex to break the vicious cycle. I’d like to get it back faster but that’s what works for me.
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Same boat mate.
I think for so many of us is that we aren’t getting hard because we’re not aroused!!
It’s not like we’re super horny and we can’t get it up….we’re trying to get it up when we aren’t excited!
I think the ED destroys the libido and then the lack of libido causes ED.
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Having the same issue. I can physically “get hard” but I’m not actually turned on and so am not getting a hard on.
So tough.
For me it all started during the 5 month breakdown of my former relationship. I think my brain started to associate sex with a toxic situation and a lack of love.
I am in same boat but I think yellow crow is spot on
Same boat. I went from having tons of sex and getting horny at the drop of a hat from 28-42. 42 got out of a relationship with a total psycho. since that time, I just haven’t been horny. it’s super weird. Has any trauma come into your life? For me, I know subconscious stress from career/life/family illness…..sits on the back of my mind and I feel like it dampens my “horny trigger”. It’s really tough. I go out socially and have fun, but I will see a cute girl and be like “God Damn she’s fine…..man her body looks great…” But I wont feel horny. I will just keep on walking and forget 5 mins later. I am 48, but it sucks to just remember how easy I would get horny just 8-9 years ago. I hope it comes back and I feel like I will have to work hard and lead a totally clean life. Reset all those muscle memories and chemical imbalances.