Identifying the inner critic during soft penis pleasuring (Part 1)

❓ Course questions
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Blood would flow in but stay semi hardSometimes inner critic is like why does it stay soft

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It was saying why not geting hard but i try to say is ok will get hard when i need to be hard

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All the sex negative thoughts came to mind but I tried to stop them. Then I got worried "I know I’m not supposed to get hard but why I’m not hard

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  1. I spent a good portion of the 10 minutes waiting for my erection or semi erection to go down, which made me very pleased and happy
  2. My first initial thoughts from my inner critic were about size. I am self conscious about my size and specifically about my girth. So when I started playing with my penis, those thoughts and self criticisms jumped right out. I hope Mojo eventually covers how to deal with these types of anxieties
  3. I eventually tried just lightly dragging a tee shirt along different spots of my penis. I was surprised how sensitive certain parts were, but very worried when the top half of the head of my penis seemed to be much less sensitive.
  4. Overall I think this exercise is golden. Negate the goal. Focus on play/exploration. See how easy it can be to achieve some blood flow when your mind isn’t running rampant. 10 minutes did feel like forever but I’m going to try this exercise a couple times a week if I can
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Gee, time for a little manscaping. Maybe I’ll look bigger.

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Spent most of my time admiring my penis. Speaking to myself, clearing my mind and telling myself to rid the inner critic and the concern that my penis is small and my sexual performance is bad. So this is why I may have not heard the inner critic, but when I do these exercises I speak to myself, assuring myself that my body and penis is perfect, that penises of all sizes do the same job. This was making me hard so I was stopping until I was soft again and then tried again.

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That this might not work and it’s a pointless exercise that won’t even help anyway

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Yes. It’s there. It is a nice part of me, acknowledged. Nice to touch it, fine. Will it ever work again? Doubting it. Ah, always these voices…

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Began getting nervous about not getting an erection despite playing with my penis. Also some small comparisons with penises from porn and twitter, etc.

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Awareness of it often not being hard enough for sex

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Small dick loser

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Reminded me of times I have failed to get an erection

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Why am I always getting erections at the wrong moment

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I got hard initially when I started touching. Then it became soft. I started analyzing why I got soft, and why I would get soft in front of a naked girl. My inner critic would tell me it should automatically get hard.
I think I keep getting too into my head instead of relaxing.

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Really didn’t feel much. My mind was primarily focused on not getting hard

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The inner critic was observing my insecurities around size and also the unnaturalness of being soft while touching

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I was worried I might be training my penis to NOT get hard which is the opposite of what I want.

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This isn’t going to work

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My mind was connecting not being erect to how my sex usually goes while not being erect and it was just a constant reminder of that.

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My thoughts went to a place of I “should”
Be hard and I “should” be able to cum easily. These are thoughts which, although fairly sub conscious, are with me when I’m in a sexual situation and which I fixate on. Surprisingly though the thoughts were not as strong during the exercise as compared to during sex

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