I plan to be more open and honest when those feelings do arise, and fight any embarrassed or (self inflicted) fear of rejection that may come from them.
Direct eye contact; verbal cues; take into a count some of the previous exercised that focus attention to particular parts of your partners’ bodies; go back to talking.
Subtle touches while watching movie.
Grabbing their head while kissing.
Giving looks to each other. Eye contact.
Cheeky ass grabs
I’m not in a relationship, but I really like the idea of self-simmering. With work and my after work hobbies, I don’t see many women, so when I do, I need to hold onto those instances in my head and realize what I feel when I see a woman I find attractive. I need to acknowledge those feelings, particularly when they don’t lead to sex.
I think simmering is part of a healthy marriage. My wife and I still hold hands after 22 years because we just love each other. So while I have Ed issues, libido has always been there.
Sending my partner a message
Have more fantasy scenarios run through my head throughout the day
Sending messages, longer kisses and loving sensual touches when passing in the kitchen for example.
I’m in a new long-distance relationship, and although i wasn’t aware of simmering before, it basically describes how we have been communicating. We constantly express our interest and appreciation, and i think it has made the long weeks between our meetings more bearable, and when we do see each other again it feels more natural and continuous. I just spent a few great days with her, and now that i’m back home we are still texting this morning, little bits of affection and spice.
Now that i know simmering is an actual practice, and its importance, i will definitely make a conscious effort to always keep this going
Play out scenarios in my head, longer kisses goodbye, tell her she’s sexy
I text my gf that I keep picturing her naked while working and it’s vey distracting.
Or I tell her I think about her soft lips on the way to work after kissing her goodbye in the morning
Kisses in the morning, compliments on how she looks, squeezing her bum.