I love this. Unfortunately I feel like I already do this and I get her all hot and ready and then I am not. I think I just need to be a little more selfish or notice her actions a bit more instead of ignoring them. I think the best simmer moments raise my heart rate a bit and I get a rush of loving feeling - lasts a few seconds. I have to remember that.
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I wish I had that confidence! Good to do that
I already do all of this, but its never reciprocated, i think i need to ask my partner to do it more than myself
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Funny enough, since using this app, I feel so much more confident about my desires that simmering seams to have increased naturally between us in the past weeks.
Yea. I basically already do this on the daily. Very active imagination.
Funnily enough my partner does this a lot to me. I’ve gradually been learning to reciprocate. Great tips though.
Seems like it would be great in a long relationship too, keep the romance alive
Send messages to my partner often throughout the day
I’ll try solo simmering and start by noticing any random sexual thoughts
Taking more time to kiss, stroke and compliment my partner
Realised I already do with my partner through messages.
Try have sexy thoughts every day.
Noticing things about guys around me and fantasising.
Longer kisses hello and good bye. Texts during the day.
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Bringing up little details from recent times we had sex that I know she found hot.
Love the ideas for simmering with couples - a bit confused on how to do so as a solo/unpartnered person but hope there are opportunities for me to explore that as easily.
My plans - text my partner my favorite things about them. Linger a bit longer on a kiss, and maybe rub on a favorite body part (or two) when we are cuddling or just in the same space with one another. Bringing up memories of things in bed we enjoyed or times we felt really connected.
I told my partner about this before I even finished the course. I’m excited to try. I believe there’s some elements of it we already practice but didn’t realise. Such as her scent being a turn-on as well as what she wears and it definitely helps me. I’d love to know I can find ways to return the favour and share a deeper connection on an intimate sexual level.
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I think they definitely intend for the imagination to be key. Perhaps taking one element of simmering that you resonate with (smell, piece of clothing etc) start where you know and build around it. Develop the fantasy perhaps, to then translate it to something in reality (say a hot coworker, a crush etc doesn’t always have to be the same person). Then as it said you can tweak it edit it and tailor it to your turn-ons.
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I can absolutely identify with this. We used to simmer all the time, but life has gotten in the way. Time to bring it back.