Physically connect when leaving and coming home. Kiss more passionately in those moments
Going to see my Mrs tonight. I will give a passionate hug and kiss when I first see her
Instead of masturbating, I’ll let thoughts about previous experiences simmer in my head for a few seconds at a time
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I have just started seeing someone and will hopefully start engaging in sex with them soon so I’m going to work on solo simmering with that person in mind for now and then if things progress, maybe discuss some ways to include simmering with them
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Try to make the hello and goodbye kisses much more intentional and passionate. Introducing touch wherever I can
I’ll start with solo simmering, then introduce it to my partner. She has a very low libido, so not sure how receptive she’ll be. (Her lack of interest in sex is definitely a cause of my insecurity. That’s not to blame her, but it definitely feeds my triggers.) But I think that it could be a great way for us to keep our romantic/sexual connection in mind as per of our daily routine.
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Make the hello and goodbye kisses more intentional.
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Telling my partner my daydreams about them!
I feel trapped because the moment i get some libido i lose control and end up watching intense porn
solo simmering so gonna practice working on fantasies and revisiting throughout the day
Just a gentle reminder here and there that I find her desirable.
Want to let my partner know how I always crave for her
An aha moment for me… when we hit puberty solo simmering comes naturally, everything about what your attracted to is all you can think about… gonna put myself in that mindset again, recondition myself, and try to stop thinking about all the adulting stuff like bills, work, and other stressors.
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A lot of these things I already do, I also do a lot of sexting with various partners, but would still like to improve my libido, how do I up my game from here? Are there more advanced methods?
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I know the feeling…
This is all the stuff we did early in our relationship before kids, mortgage, bills, chores etc etc and we’ve kind of lost it. Familiarity and taking each other for granted no doubt contributes too. We still do these things sometimes but it’s time to get back to how it used to be if we can and enjoy the anticipation again and whatever follows. Long kisses, caressing and other physical touch and suggestive comments, innuendo and might even try some sexting!
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Just go with the flow, when desire comes along I will sit with it for a little longer than I’m used to
I guess Ill try having naughty thoughts solo all day and in the office
I interpreted “simmering” as another way to say flirting. It’s so important to be unapologetic about desire but a low condidence can stifle that. A reminder to let my intentions or desires known to women I want. As a single guy in the field I will “simmer” with women I want. Through interactions in person, or through text messages that are on going
Bring back the hello and goodbye kisses. More personal texts throughout the day. A passing smack on the butt.