How do you plan to simmer?

I don’t. My sex drive is so crashed that these things seem like terrible ideas. She will just say no.

First, I’m going to share what I’ve learned with my partner. I think the place where we can practice right away is with our greetings and goodbyes. Building anticipation, expressing our desire

Solo for now, just trying to think of sexual things regularly would be good to start

I’m going to tell her about simmering and learn about what kind of simmering she enjoys most, and then share the same with her. Then most importantly put this habit into action and just keep at it so that I feel excited for sex again rather than nervous about an embarrassing ED moment.

Tell her somehow and practice if comfortable

Brother, i feel for you…
One step at a time
Please dont givw up

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I’m bit afraid that my partner will not be keen to do it but I’ll definitively talk to her. :slight_smile:

Let’s see how it goes

Morning and good night passionate kisses. Small strokes on the body like lower back and gently touching butt as I walk by. Giving her compliments throughout the day. Wearing nicer looking clothes. Being polished and wearing a nice scent.

She likes to text me a “hi” in the morning and before bed, I’ll make sure to include more compliments on those.

I hope to kiss my partner with more intentionality, to tell them when they look good to me, and to share with them when I want them. I also think they would enjoy more physical affection

messaging and a long kiss

I’m in a new relationship. Weve been simmering for a few months and there is no lack of sexual desire or boredom. We can’t see each other daily, but distance does make the heart grow fonder….
I think my Ed slowed my libido with my x and my fear of embarrassment surrounding my issue caused me to choose solo rather than partnered sex….
Which turned into a porn habit and a death grip that I’m working on changing….
This new woman is so passionate, so caring, understanding and willing to do whatever it takes to make me feel as good as she says I maker her feel is a welcome change!

He’s away right now so I’ll be messaging him!

I like to give compliments on certain features of my partner that catch my attention, and touch her in unusual but respective and sensual ways. I realized I’ve been simmering for a long time, but I’ll do it with more intention, and bring it up with my partner so she can try being intentional with it as well, if sbe chooses to.

Touch them on their arms and play with their ears when we are together. Also send flirtatious signals even in public.

Touch her leg, send her flirty texts.

Show her this Mojo lesson and see what she says.

Make an effort to give each of us a long hug every time one of us leaves for an errand.

Fantasising and flirting

I am currently single so working on my fantasizing skills.

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Single so working on fantasies

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