How do you keep the sexual flow going?

Making it a moment of my masculine sexual expression. I keep the context of sexy and the sexual tension going. You could be doing anything and still be sexy and hold sexual tension.
I rip open condoms and and glide it on aware my partner is watching me…. It’s hot.

Have a 30 second window when my partner is putting on the condom and I am playing with her body.

Application by mouth is The Way

I try to think of some pornographic situation.

I try to think that condom is a performance clothes. Like shoes for a runner or gloves for a goal keeper. When I think in this way, condo can give me more confidence rather ruining the moment.

Kissing, physical touch, foreplay.

Keep stroking!!

Just being open about whatever is bothering me, taking the time to figure it out, and then moving on back to the action. It takes a lot of honesty, and willingness to discuss your issues.

keeping contact probably helps, but it’s not that easy, specially if you’re anxious and trying to speed up the moment because you know what can happen if it takes too long

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I like to talk in advance about my erectile dysfunction issues, it feels like airing the dirty secret which makes my inner critic calmer later. And discussing if we’ll use a condom is helpful too. As i find they are a killer for me, when i start to have sex with a new partner i am thinking to myself, will she mind if i enter her without using a condom. So i am worrying about that. For me, flow helps and this has been helpful - so massaging her, rubbing against her body. I never thought about it but i guess it’s getting me out of my head and into my body

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I mean the issue is that many of the solutions being brought up by these doctors requires an understanding, consistent partner who you have established a level of intimacy and familiarity with. That’s not the case for me right now - its more trying to figure out how i can have sex with new people.

Kissing

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Oral

I don’t use condoms and am married so good luck with that!

I try to keep touching her kissing her everywhere, and stay close to her, and when I get kissed all over it helps. So a lot of kissing helps keep the flow going

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Communication is the biggest thing. My ex and I couldn’t communicate so we never worked through the bedroom issues. With my next partner Communication will help so much.

I think there is no easy answer to this. Condoms though necessary are a compromise, and dealing with this is really what is compromised.

Getting head being playful and making sure really hard before getting the thing on is a good idea but I find I feel like I’m against the clock to get it in and stay hard,

Spending hours as a teenager practising putting them on probably helped lol)))

Going fast enough so as not to lose the flow, but also relaxing

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By kissing

Condoms have never really been a turn off for me. On the days I do feel aroused enough for sex, condoms have just been another tool to reduce sensation and make me last longer. On the days I have trouble getting it up, condoms definitely make things worse. It’s like trying to force a mushed banana back into the peel. Oral sex is usually a turn on for me, so if my partner is open to the idea, they could put the condom on with their mouth.