Ive watched porn regularly since the age of 14. I am genuinely concerned that it has impacted how sex feels for me. I respond to visual and auditory stimuli even outside of sex.
Growing up I never had an issue with porn. I feel like recently - it has came with a guilt and not even specifically porn. Just seeing pictures of attractive women I feel a guilt even though I am not going to do anything to act on it. I believe I need to not shame myself so much for it and understand it’s natural in life and that I know I won’t do anything to act and let that thought pass without affecting me mentally and physically.
it feels so obvious but i’ve never realized it before that porn itself isn’t the problem (aside from the ethical issues with actors of course). i want to fix my relationship with it so hopefully i can get that going
Probably stated with bad advice coupled with a dry spell from the real thing. There’s always some friend that gives the worst advice that sticks but reprogramming those thoughts are difficult. I think this lesson was helpful in starting to change the bad narrative about porn and other erotic avenues
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After my first and only relationship ended I’ve started looking at my social anxiety and loneliness and wondering if it is related to my porn consumption. I’m unsure if I am using porn to avoid moving on
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I have those exact same feelings.
My tastes in porn have gotten more…intense over the years. I’m always comparing myself to the actors/actresses. This exercise made me realize that tastes change over time, and that I’m just not having those conversations enough with my partner about it.
I stopped suddenly, but I remember really enjoying it. I want to get more in touch with that side of me since I have to spend a lot of time away from my partner
I have been trying nofap/noporn on and off for years, thinking that was the right path. But then i would always relapse and feel shame for relapsing. The education through this app is helping me finally realise that I’m allowed to have a healthy relationship with porn, and that’s something I’m going to work towards :).
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My feeling surrounding body image has changed how I view myself/ compare myself to the actors. Anxiety stems from a sense of perceived inadequacy
I think I started to get “porn panic” when I had an episode of losing my erection during sex. Although there are correlations, there were a number of additional things going that could have also contributed and this is helping me understand that there are more variables involved. Also that perhaps my wants and needs have changed.
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I think it has changed a few times. I think my anxiety spiked when I felt like it was interfering with my relationship at the time. Then, it lessened again when I stopped watching a specific type of porn that had unrealistic body standards for women, that my partner said was causing her anxiety. Now, I feel better watching porn!
This made me realize that I should not hide things from future partners. I should be honest about what turns me on, my desires and my fears.
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Always felt straight but into some gay/trans porn and feeling incredibly shamed by this. I should just accept that I like what I like - and thats ok!
I don’t feel ashamed about watching porn, but I do think it affects my experience and performance in partnered sex
I used to think that my physical standards (how attractive/fit someone is) were shaped by porn. It may have marginally, but I believe this standard/desire has been with me ever since the start of puberty. These days I see porn as being the only way to access my desires in my 20s
Im slowly over coming it
I feel like I used to be super into porn when I was younger but also not have any issues with it. Now I consume it way less but am way more wary. I want to get back to where I was.