My whole experience with my ex wife
i’ve been thinking of porn as something negative in my life that I am fighting to quit. Maybe the first thing to do is reevaluate that and try to build a healthier relationship with it rather than just feeling bad for watching it
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I struggle with some fantasises as they go against my morals and my perception of being the man in the relationship. It’s a battle I’ve always had in my own mind and while I don’t think it’s caused any issues with my sex drive or my ability to get it up, it’s something I feel needs some sort of explanation as to where it came from as it hasn’t always been there despite me watching porn for years
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When I was in my late teens I was super into straight porn despite being gay, seeing guys breed and fuck was actually hot (as long as the video wasn’t focused too much on the woman), over time I felt wrong for this because it didn’t match my personality and that caused stress and shame.
I started watching porn at a very young age and have been consuming it almost everyday for over a decade now. With an increase in my ED issues, I suddenly stumbled upon the idea of porn induced ED which has significantly changed my perception of porn
What connected with me is the “not talking about it” aspect of porn. Either because we feel it’s not in keeping with being an upstanding member of society or any other reason. But in my case it can lead to me bringing a guy back and my brain saying “you shouldn’t be doing this”, which is a critical distraction
learning to accept that porn is something to be unashamed of has been helpful. hoping to change my beliefs that it’s some shameful
thing.
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I consume porn a lot but I want to stop this as I cannot seem to get an erection without the visual enhancement
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I am going to try to masturbate without visual enhancement
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Yes, porn can be healthy and entertaining in a safe way
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I largely went cold turkey from porn to only ever having sexual contact with my partner. Maybe I should add it back in from time to time. But I am worried. I used it as a crutch for so long
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Porn was a taboo, then it was a tool, then it was a necessity. I want to get it to fun and optional.
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Grew up Christian, definitely taboo, but over time I’ve seen it as a tool.
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I self medicated with weed for a long time. I felt like a drug addict sometimes, I was a bit self hating about it. However, I still kept coming back to thinking that it was helping me. I would get to where I did it too much and it wasn’t even fun, but then completely quitting didn’t seem like the answer either. Now after like 2 decades of that, weed became legal if you got a medical card, I got the card, I don’t use any more weed now than I did before, but the SHAME IS GONE. That has completely changed my life.
Does he think he’s on another website? No, I used porn that entire time and had what I’m now realizing was a very similar feeling of shame. I think porn can probably be used almost medically. I want to get it to that point. I don’t want to over use it, but I don’t want to feel shame about it and not use it…
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Porn turned from a tool to ease some pain I was going through and coping to a detrimental factor in my life,eased up and off and an went cold turkey and turned it to a tool surrounded by shame.ive been coaching myself to know that there shouldn’t be any shame but it hard due to societal pressures and misinformation.i want it to be a tool for fun and self sexuality/sexual expression
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I don’t worry about the type of porn, but how I use it. I used to watch the full scene, but now I only get turned on by the penetration shoot and the ejaculation. I worry that I am limiting my desires and decreasing the strength of my erections.
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I started watching porn at a young age and ive viewed it over 25 years now. In the begin it was fun and intriguing. It wasn’t until I started having problems in the bedroom when I had a problem with. If I failed to have sex with my lady I would go home and finish mysslf off and I hated it. I would also lie to my partner about watching porn because I feared her judgement. It wasn’t until a few years ago when we started having children that I decided to reduce my porn intake and I had realized my in person with other adults was horrible. I was looking at nearly woman for their sex potential not who they were as a person. It has really hurt my social life and career. I never acted on any physically I would visualize that woman naked and later find a porn actress who resemble her and masturbate. 5 years ago I notice my porn feed was starting to pull in bisexual and Trans content, and this new fad of step child sex and step siblings sex, this really disgusted me and sent me on a path to heal. I am leagues better now, if I watch I get a quick release from a cam girl which has felt more ethical than the main big X sites. I use to spend hours porn clicking and scrolling, now if I don’t like the content or it’s too unrealistic I just turn it off and move on. This app is new to me I’ve been on it for 2 weeks, and they given some helpful insights like the porn addiction isn’t real but the dopamine addiction is real. You need to shift your dopamine triggers and you can drop porn all together if you want.
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I have been looking the women around as potential sex partner. That has always been a problem since I was a teenager. To feel good I use to lie with my gf saying that I already had sexual relations when it was not true. I had my first full experience when I was 21 years old. I have been into porn and envisioning other women only sexually since I can remember. I hope the app will help me fixing .. me!
More or less always the same towards porn.
I’ve adventured but always kept a boundary of what may be a little too much for me.
What bothered me more was having over 100+ tabs and watching hours of it - these scenarios directly result in a guilt loop after
When I’ve watched and timed myself (usually allowing for 1 hour) I’ve found myself finishing earlier tbh, and not feeling like shit which has been a great tool
I like the idea of porn being healthy and to look it as natural curiosity that may or may not reflect who we see ourselves as in real life. I also think it can be an outlet for me for repressed desire, and that it’s a queue to persue different fantasies and partners irl.
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