There’s a bit of a conflict between my current self at my age who watches porn less, masturbates less and feels less fine about watching porn, and my inner ‘younger’ self who enjoys watching. Trying to normalise this and accept how I feel is challenging, but definitely helps reading things like this
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Just recently, like over the past few months or so, I realized that my real self is separated from my pornographic preferences and just because I enjoy watching that type of content doesn’t mean I’m suddenly going to become a different person
For me, it’s the dopamine hit, almost like scrolling social media. It’s a distraction from daily life. I almost think the screen time is more damaging than it being porn on the screen. I need to put myself in real life situations more.
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Porn has lost a little of its appeal as I’ve gotten older. Not that I’ve gotten board, but I’ve been more into stories recently. The l
Porn I do watch is usually something I watched from when I was younger which makes me believe there is a nostalgic affect to it.
It’s changing from something that I can’t control to one that I can either condor up or do without
I struggle with performance anxiety and one day I read that it could be due to porn. Then I read that porn is bad for you and yada yada. I feel as though my relationships with women have been negatively affected by porn, however I don’t see the benefits of cutting it out completely. I want to find a healthy balance and also make sure I see women as a partner and not just for their body.
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When I was a young boy porn was such an exciting, lowkey terrifying and so insanely enticing to me. Everything about it felt wrong yet new and interesting. Since I didn’t really understand sexuality (my own and in general), watching porn was seriously a mix of so many intense emotions that I do believe it shaped my sexuality on a deep level.
Throughout the years I went through all the different phases of porn consumption: general addiction, addiction to more and more extreme stuff, complete absentia from porn, etc.
Now in recent years, having learned the pitfalls of porn for myself, I’ve settled into a nice niche and really found how to keep my porn consumption in check. So nowadays I stick to mostly vanilla/regular porn, leaning mostly to really amateur stuff. Which I am satisfied with.
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Earlier I never used to think or feel conscious while watching porn but recently after being cheated on I constantly compare myself with porn stars on the basis of their bodies and penises.
Just that not all porn is bad. As long as your relationship with it is healthy, you should have nothing to worry about.
That I can still watch porn and have a healthy relationship with my wife. It’s okay to watch it.
That it’s okay to watch porn and like the things you like
No. It turned into an anxiety buffer over covid. Then it kind of became a thing to avoid
Only recently I’ve been feeling guilty about it. It’s funny that I get this lesson now
It’s okay to watch different types of porn without actually acting upon it. I mostly prefer vanilla heterosexuality and am keen to explore ethical porn sites.
It changed recently I think I began looking at it in a more negative way, since everyone seems to be bashing Penn nowadays. But it seems that is what has affected my performance issues; perhaps not necessarily the lack of porn, but seems like I have turned off a switch in my brain that has reduced my libido and makes my penis have performance anxiety.
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I’ve been trying to avoid porn for years, maybe now I’ll try the approach of watching it and being okay with it
I used to rely on it, but when I started having erection issues I thought that too much porn might have been a cause of the issues