The girl I’ve been seeing is coming over to hangout tonight. I have been a little jittery and panicked in the past. I would construct a narrative where by some definition I will be a failure this day sexually. I won’t get it up in good time, I won’t keep it up, I’m going to be embarrassed, she will think less of me and I will be frustrated.
Today, I feel confident and I am looking forward to the sex. I’m starting to change my perspective on what this all means.
In my mind right now I can’t wait to give and receive pleasure. I removed the specific image of what that looks like.
I’ve been simmering all day. I keep remembering the hot moments from the last time we were together and it’s definitely keeping me primed.
One thing is for sure. I will be satisfied with any outcome.
Whats changed?
-Practing the excerises on Mojo for about 3 weeks.
-Very open communication with my very understanding partner. (She’s been amazing and understanding, and also has cum multiple times. She’s enjoying the experience)
- Accepting that not all encounters will go the same. No matter how anxious I feel in the moment. I still enjoy myself every time.
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You’ve got this! Let us know how it went
Update: I didn’t have any anxious thoughts yesterday. We we watched a movie at the cinemas. It was us and 3 other people in the room. We sat in the back and we’re intensely making out during the movie. We were rubbing eachother and talking dirty about wanting to fuck in the theater. I’m usually not confident enough to initiate sex talk before the act. Especially in public. It was hot!
We then went out for some dinner and had some good laughs.
When we reached my place we went up to my bedroom to “watch a movie and give massages”. Right away she asked if it’s we should just skip to getting naked and cuddle under the sheets. I said " He’ll ueah".
I wasn’t nervous. I was getting hard from being against her skin and making out. Usually I’m numb and don’t feel sensations l. This time I noticed the heat. I noticed the pleasure from grinding on her. I was aroused! Huge shock!
She went down on me and asked I’d I wanted to finish in her mouth. I flipped her on the bed and stuck My dick in.
We had sex for about 15 minutes. I was hard and into it the whole time. She came twice. I finished with her the second time. It was better than I imagined! Locking eyes with her crazy sex eyes and listening to her moans kept me spurred on.
I’m looking forward to our next encounter!!!
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Awesome and congratulations!!
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Hell ya man that’s amazing! Was this the first time you guys had sex? It sounds like your energies match which is huge. I think it’s a big thing … when my energy doesn’t match my partner I have more erection & libido issues
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Super! V proud of you man- you are inspiring us all 
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this is amazinnggggg man, so wicked to see men curving so many past inner critics and embracing positive sexuality 
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Thanks guys! I love this community. Everyone here is so supportive. We might be the men out here struggling. But, the struggle will not be our forever story if we work at it every day , trust in ourselves, and the process.
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