I think I trained my body and mind to only perform prone masturbution , means lying on my front, and it put the belive in my head that is the only way I am able to do it. I feel anxious in any other position and it stopped me from enjoying the sex at all.
I never had problems with ED until last year. I hadn’t had sex in a long time due to recovering from the end of a longterm relationship where my partner was my first and only (still masturbated just fine).
When I tried to have sex with someone, I was very very drunk and couldn’t get it up. I left embarrassed, drunk, and extremely disappointed. Ever since then, I’ve almost completely lost the ability to get a full erection from mental stimulation alone even when I’m not anxious. Like I’ll wake up from a sex dream and only be partial. Only with physical stimulation can I get something close to full.
But that night created a performance anxiety in me I never had before. So the performance anxiety often stops the physical stimulation from getting me fully hard. And even when I do, I feel like I’m not full. Frustrating because I know I’m fine physically (been checked by doctors).
Yes, during positions that I’m not doing the movements. I get anxious because I feel like my penis doesn’t stay hard enough when I’m not in control, most time when they climb on me it just goes numb because I don’t feel enough stimulation
Yes, I don’t feel nervous or scared, but I just shut down.
When I feel my penis not working properly.
I have had accusations of being gay, I’ve always managed to get past my problems after prolonged periods of time with a partner, but I feel it’s pushed me back from dating and caused me to miss out on real connections with people because I was fearful of ruining things with my ED
I’ve always had the predisposition to love myself conditionally. Once my sex life began, it was very easy to put this conditional love onto the condition of performance. If I couldn’t do well during sex, which is normal for everyone, I would lose my confidence and beat myself up. This has led me to where I am today, scared to have sex because of repeating anxiety that I placed upon myself long ago.
No
Yes I do for some reason now more than I use to. Now sex feels more tedious and not a natural transition. I guess life has gotten in the way as well.
I had a couple of sexual experiences between ages 17-19, and I was not able to get it up. I didn’t end up losing my virginity until I was 22, and I was very anxious about it partly because of my previous experiences but also because I was well behind everybody around me in terms of sex and it became a massive insecurity for me. I had my first girlfriend at 22 and it took about 2 months of trying to actually get hard enough to have sex. The erections were not full and I’d often go soft mid penetration, it started taking a big hit to my self esteem. Although she was very understanding and patient, I still found it very difficult to have good sex. Having a full erection was rare and it really started to get into my head. I’m now 26 and she is my only sexual partner, and that relationship only lasted 5 months. I’ve been in a few situations where I could’ve taken girls to bed but I’ve avoided it because of performance anxiety. I’m stuck in my head around sexual thoughts and it’s a massive block for me. I can get hard during masturbation although not as hard as I used to get. I told my doctor about it and he prescribed me viagra but he didn’t have much to say other than that I’m probably just worrying too much and we didn’t really get into the root cause of the issue.
Sometimes I get nervous that my penis is not super hard and it’s not overt but just in the back of my mind.
I usually get anxious during foreplay which then leads to performance anxiety and inhibits me from getting and maintaining an erection. It’s frustrating.
Yes,I thought they will judge or laugh about me after because I’m not good enough or cos I’m to small and lots of other things…
And they put me more down when I hear my friends telling me different adventures some of them they go more then 30 min or more and the time is growing
Probably because I’m over thinker or because I’m anxious and suffer of panic attacks it affects my sexual life
Yes I just start freakin out in my head thinking that nothing is going to happen and then nothing happens and I fill like crap after
Yes, all the time. It has affected my sex drive and has led to issues getting hard or for the most part staying hard during sex.
Yes! I feel so behind at sex because I lost
very late my virginity in comparison with all my friends. My girlfriend is so patience with me because I don’t get hard without viagra
In my case what happens is that during foreplay I will be hard but anxious at the same time, this anxiousness can be mild and allow me to be hard (but some other time it won’t) and when trying to pass from foreplay to penetration the real anxiousness kicks in “will I be able to penetrate? Will my erection last? Will she enjoy it? Will she feel less attractive because I loose my erection?” And just as the heisenberg my erection falls
I worry about being hard or if I’m still hard while having sex and it ends up going down.
Sometimes l get anxious during sex and my erection drops. I then begin to think about getting back the erection that dropped and it never comes and l feel bad about it
I noticed that every time that I got anxious or less confident I get and ED.
Sometimes my mind is always thinking and enjoying the moment.