Lose erection
Yes I can’t stay hard and I lose all confidence
She’s really experienced, anxiety to make her finish
Yes, every time I masturbate, it doesn’t take me long to finish (5-10mins). And I alway think to myself if I lasted this long in bed I won’t be able to satisfy my partner.
Always
Been married for 32 years. We went through a really rough stretch about 8 years ago. Nearly divorced. But we patched things up, and have never been better together, but since that time my ED has gotten worse and worse.
Ive been able to maintain erections during sex for normal periods of time (10-20 mins) before but I recently couldnt hold it when i was about to penetrate. There was a lot of foreplay beforehand and it was hard as a rock for like 30 min. I think i got too in my head when I was trying to put it in and I didnt ask for help putting it in because I didnt want to seem like a “loser” which I know is stupid to think. Anyways, kinda sucks because this girl was pretty decent as a person and was also into me.
Also, had another incident before this where i couldnt get it up but i think that was because this other girls vag smelled like dead fish so im not too worried about that lol.
I am so turned on my girlfriend, but in the heat of the moment, self doubt creeps in my mind, and I’m left wondering whether I’ll get an erection. It becomes a slippery slope because I almost talk myself out of enjoying the moment.
Yes
It affects whole day.
Every where
Difficult marriage ended in divorce. Ex wife had killed my confidence in bed. Ended up focusing on pleasuring her more than myself and ended up dealing with both ED and PE. Now I am pretty hard during the fore play , with porn but as soon as penetrative sex is in question , I lose my erection or come too soon
Yes. I would say most of it comes from not having a lot of experience and not knowing how to lead the experience for myself and my partner and be great in bed. Watching porn and hearing about my other friends that i consider more attractive than me has led me to not have confidence in myself.
Yes I do and it effects my performance, I worry if I’ll be able to stay hard and cum, this is only a recent struggle I’ve been having, normally it’s not an issue at all but over the last year I’ve had problems of and on with starting erect once I start having sex or masterbating
I get anxious when foreplay happens or when, she’s about to take my pants off for some reason, idk it weird asf
It takes me out of the mood totally. I kind of have this thing like I might as well not even do anything
Yes, I get anxious
Yes I do. I feel if I’ll be able to maintain my erection. Sometimes it gets flaccid during erection but I’m usually able to get it up again. Sometimes it may take a few minutes to get it up. But I usually manage to get an erection.
I find it easier to maintain an erection while having unprotected sex, with condom i guessbit affects me psychologically more than anything.
Also I don’t get morning erections often. Maybe 2 times a week I’m able to get a morning erection. However I can get it up while I’m alone watching porn. I struggle sometimes to maintain the erection and that also bothers me
After not seeing my wife for a week as I’m in the military i couldn’t get hard this morning for her. We had foreplay but I just couldn’t hold an erection.
I just don’t know what the issue is. I’ve also put weight on in which it’s knocked my confidence drastically.
I’ve done a lot of inner work over the past couple of years, and I’ve through the experience come pretty close to many of my childhood / early life traumas. I was sexually abused when I was 8 years old, by an older boy, he was probably around the age of 12. As I was too young to understand what it was really about, I just thought it strange. When I was to have my first sexual experience, I couldn’t get it up. Which caused me to feel immense shame. The two following times I was trying ot have sex I couldn’t get it up either. The third woman asked me if I was gay. The fourth time it worked and then it was fine until my mid-twenties when the problem slowly crept back into my life, and with it the increasing performance anxiety.
I started losing much of my libido around 27, began using viagra, to slowly come off it whenever I got into a relationship because I felt more safe. I’m now in a life situation where I’ve learned to co-exist with my anxiety. Me and my woman have great sex, and in 19/20 it works for me physically. But the thought of not getting an erection is always there with me, before sex, during sex, and throughout my life.
The sexual abuse, together with these three first sexual encounters is most likely what caused the wound in the first place. Even though I’ve gone back to that moment several times and cried about it, and most likely healed a lot of the emotional wound, the psychological part remains. Hoping that this community can help me to deal with it once and for all.
I’m 37 and it never use to. Then one day during a period on high anxiety, i could get it up.
Now its constantly on my mind. My hands gets cold, and when i get it up, i have a fear of losing it.
I do get nervous before. I feel as if it’s not enough and get in my own head. It stops me from fully getting erect.