Im fine having an erection most of the time and even when im doing foreplay i usually get a good erection, but its as soon as i penetrate, i seem to lose it
Yes, it affects me as I am less confident to go on dates and sexually explore with people.
Yep happens a lot more now and each time it happens it sort of reenforces it happening again. But then I have great sex about half the time and then anxiety the other half.
Yea all the time I waited like 4 months to have sex with the girl I’m seeing now. I hated my self cos I only lasted 45secs thought she would break up with me cos of it and would never want to see me
Yes. I keep thinking about not getting hard and it keeps me away from being in the moment.
So me and my partner have been together for almost 2 years and in the first half year of our relationship we had sex non stop but as we’ve had children and I’ve worked more I have had trouble keeping an erection I sometimes have sex for like a few day( like a few times a day) to not being able to get it up and I’m worried it’s creating a strain on my relationship
13yrs ago when I first got into the relationship with my girlfriend we were like rabbits for the first five years. Then she had some medical issues and I started my own business and there has been some stressful issues in between so i believe this is all in my head. Im on testosterone and cialis and still cant perform with my partner, it is so depressing and makes me feel like im useless. The past 5 yrs I can count on my hand the number of times I was able to get an erection for penetration and finish. It has ruined our sex life.
Sometimes I start to see that I’m not getting hard or it’s not staying hard and once I overthink it it’s really tough to keep an wrection
My mind goes off in tangents and I can’t concentrate. I then I have to pretend I am enjoying it and it puts me off.
The minute that I am distracted by anything or worry about performance it’s game over.
Anxiety or worry usually starts during foreplay with me and obviously from past experiences of not keeping my erection during sex, this obviously has then become to get into my mind and then I just kind of think of the worst situation. I really try hard not to think about it but because it’s happened so many times it’s really hard to get over that thought and just enjoy myself. Not normally a problem getting hard in the first place, but keeping the erection. I usually find myself elevated heart rate I feel stressed or hyped up and I can’t relax.
It started I guess in April 2023, I was on a trip and though we had sex multiple times a day, my penis was not that hard, it used to be so better.
Post that I have been having thoughts that my libido is going down, and this affects my relationship.
It gets in my hard, even though I get hard during foreplay, the fear is that I will not be when having sex.
The anxiety preceding my sexual attempts cause me to constantly check for and worry that I won’t get an erection and most times, I don’t get an eraction.
I could literally be mid pump and I lose the erection/get mildly soft. Even when I’m getting head etc I get into my actual head way too much
Yes typically before. It’s like I’ve told myself I need to have sex for this long to make a partner happy. Then when we are about to do it, I’m too worried about how well I’m gonna do.
I have struggled with performance anxiety and ED at different times in my life, thankfully it mostly disappeared when I was in a long term relationship. Since becoming single, it has resurfaced and has impacted nearly every sexual encounter I’ve had. The anxiety usually sets in a couple of hours prior to a potential hookup and remains throughout the experience. I’m so conscious of it now that It’s all I can think about prior to sex. I think some of my performance anxiety stems from being gay as there is a strong emphasis on sex and sexual performance and stamina within the gay community. I usually compare myself to my peers and end up feeling inadequate and frustrated with myself to the point where I avoid sex more than I’d like to.
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Yes every time I get easily distracted then I worry I can’t get it up then I start to worry about what my partner thinks and if she is satisfied
I don’t feel anxious but it just happens and I lose it and then I feel badly about it. I usually go into it confidently but deep down I know it’s only going to happen again and again. Unless I get comfortable with someone then everything works just fine. I have problems with most hookups. Not with relationships
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I too feel that sometimes
I’m in a very new relationship. I get erection in foreplay but easily lose it in penetration. Especially if I’m expected to perform. I get anxious for some reason and lose the erection. I’ve also had a problem with early ejaculation in my earlier life. The first night together was very good and we both had orgasms in penetration. But after that I started to lose it and struggled in maintaining the erection. I feel nervous about the next time when we meet. She has a lot of fantasies of hard sex and also making love, I love to fantasise of them too but I feel the pressure of the performance in the end.