Get more and more into my head, all my focus goes to my penis and I am unable to control ejaculation. I either come too early or not at all.
I began to notice I was struggling with performance anxiety in my mid to late 20’s.My wife and I try to have sex on a fairly regular basis but I find myself struggling with performance anxiety more frequently than I once did. I have a pre existing medical condition that requires me to be on medication. In my early 20’s it was not often that I would have difficulty maintaining an erection. But as time has gone on, my performance anxiety has become more prevalent. Between the research I have done about medication side effects and speaking with a specialist, there is no evidence showing that my performance anxiety is related to my medical condition.
My wife is understanding and empathetic about my performance anxiety, but it still diminishes my confidence and adds stress to perform in the bedroom. Want my wife to feel sexually fulfilled and have an orgasm. I try to just “be in the moment” and clear my head of any distractions but it doesn’t seem to help much. It becomes more and more difficult to have a healthy sex life and certain level of intimacy. Suffering from performance anxiety makes it more stressful when trying to mix things up a bit. Try to block it out of my mind but it’s an added pressure to try and satisfy my wife and have that level of intimacy. It’s the elephant in the room but also feels like a taboo subject to talk about and puts a strain on our marriage even though we don’t discuss it. Want to be able to be able to have a great sex life with my wife without the constant worry of maintaining my erection.
I focus to hard to keep the erection, it falls down. If i dont focus on it, it is fine
When it comes to penetration yes.
Any new partner I have I have issues getting erect. Once I have an established partner it’s better. It’s still an issue though sometimes. One bad thought and my erection is gone. I take Cialis which helps but I want to try drug free.
I have been anxious lately I feel like I am not performing and it makes me loose my focus as I can concentrate and my mind wonders of to other things going on and I have a hard time cunning
During a blowjob I worry I can’t stay hard
Yes I get nervous that it will go soft. I don’t understand why I’m hard during foreplay but soft or go soft for intercourse. It hurts my girl and now she thinks im not sexually attracted to her when thats not remotely the case!
It affects me terribly because my girlfriend thinks im not into her sexually. I’m hard all through foreplay giving and receiving but when its time to gave sex i go soft and it depresses me. I quit porn I’ve been sobber for 3 months now but the problem remains. I’m depressed about this we haven’t had sex in months now.
Yes, I feel anxious during sex. I’m afraid I won’t leave soon
I recently started a new relationship. Our “sexual” life started when I was making out with my partner before sex and then she told me she had herpes (before we did it). I took a few days to get information to see if I still wanted to be in the relationship. I decided to do it and we agreed that she would take Valtrex and I would use a condom. We really love and care about each other and I haven’t had a relationship like this with such a supportive person. But the sex hasn’t been good. I’m 59 now and I had some issues in the past so almost always have used Viagra when I’ve had sex and it’s been great. But with her, I tried with and didn’t ejaculate and then without the Viagra and had a hard time maintaining an erection. I’m feeling pretty sad about all this since she is such a wonderful partner. I wonder if it’s herpes that’s still freaking me out, whether it’s my own performance issues or maybe the attraction just isn’t strong enough. I really don’t know and need some help.
I get worried i wont stay hard
Makes me feel embarrassed and a failure
Yes makes me not get erect
I can have a good erecting but as soon as I put a condom on it’s gone.
yes and feel like i’m not doing well
Yes with new sexual partners
Yes and it will prevent or kill erection
100% of the time! It kills my erection. It’s been like this my entire life. I have never been a great sexual experience. To say it’s frustrating is an understatement. It’s well beyond disappointing!
Yes, I fear that I will do something wrong or not the right way. Then I will be told that I am not into my partner or don’t like my partner. Or I I am not sexually attracted to my partner.