Yes, It makes me feel hopeless
Getting anxious makes me aware of little things that bother me, in myself or my partner. I worry about “noticing the wrong thing” and it turns into a “turn off.”
Yes I get anxious, sometimes I have great sex and others I get too stressed and can not stay hard and my girlfriend doesn’t understand and gets upset
Stresses me out in fear of losing the erection
Never had this problem of getting it up or lasting a short time until recently. I’ve been in a few relationships and have always had great sex with no erection issues. I just got out of a relationship 2 months ago where we were very sexually active almost every night for a year and a half. I recently met a new woman and have gone to bed now twice and havnt been able to get it going for the life of me. I was able to get it up for a short time but not enough to have a good experience. She’s really nice and reassuring that it’s okay but it’s really hurting my ego that I can’t perform for her. Idk if I’m too much in my head, psyching myself out, or just too tired/stressed. I know my thang works well but it’s not anymore these last two weeks. I’m also sober so I know it’s not whiskey dick or anything like that affecting my performance. I have thought about taking blewchews or hims for assistance but don’t want to get into a habit of having to take drugs for sex. I’ve stopped watching porn, thinking that’ll have an effect. I don’t want this to get worse and I really want to have good sex again. I’m only 25…
Each time I have sex, or even start to get in the mood I feel like I’m there and everything is going well, but I could just move position, or hear a noise and that completely stops me from getting an erection, or it causes my semi erection to go flaccid. During masturbation I sometimes have days where I can’t get it up, and that can be frustrating, however I seem to have more success when alone than with my partner. I feel like my head just goes deep into overdrive. I don’t want to feel embarrassed in front of her, and that’s the main reason I think.
I get anxious right before sex. I can literally be hard and then I start worrying about it and then it won’t stay hard.
It first bothered me when a girl I have been with before in the past came over and I noticed the anxiety to perform became really prevelant and I couldnt get it up. Since then I have been very concerned about if that would ever happen again as I was quite embarassed
Has affected me my whole life, from my first relationship. For the past two years I’ve been self medicating with Cialis, but even that hasn’t fully fixed the problem, which has reared its head back into my life, with my current relationship. When it’s here, it’s such a cause of stress!
Yes, I do. I take time to come. So if partner is not playful enough, then I loose the rythym. Difficult to do quickies
Unable to get erect
I’m worried about pleasing my partner, and not being able to get an erection
As soon as I start thinking about sex, the thought pops into my mind. What if I don’t get hard or what if I don’t stay hard…. Then it’s just a circle of negative thoughts.
I used to some years ago when I was first together with my now wife, and at times had trouble maintaining erections. She always felt poorly taking the pill, so we were using condoms at the time. I always felt anxious that by time I would get the condom on the I would lose my erection. Anyhow things got better for several years and my wife had a coil, meaning we didn’t have to use the condoms. Recently however she has had issues with the coil and had to have it removed and for now go back to the condoms until we reach a solution. All of a sudden the same anxiety has come back and worse than before.
Yes, just before or the lead up to meeting someone I’m just out of a long term 15 year relationship so starting all over again
Anxious
Very. Since i had a stroke 7 years ago we have only had full sex 5 times. My wife is amazing and i bought toys and they help
Don’t last long
I can’t exactly say that it is completely anxious because I notice that some thought crossed my mind and then boom, erection gone. Even sometime I got fully hard on during foreplay but it got soft before penetration.
I used to be able to get hard and stay hard very easily.
Now when I get hard it doesn’t stay hard for long at all