In the last six years I have remained sexless. I have found that I am addicted to porn and the last girl I was with I was unable to perform. I never had this problem when I was younger but the fear and anxiety I feel when I am naked in bed with a girl. It just gets limp and kills my confidence.
Definitely get anxious during sex. Sometimes it starts before, with me wondering how long it will take me to get hard, and how long I will stay hard. I get very into my head and it definitely takes me out of the moment completely - I get so worried about what is going to happen next, that I can’t get into what is happening now.
Hook ups or one nighters are generally fine, although I do find if anything happens to pause the action past that initial hard on, getting it back again can be tricky (I’m in my head about it) and with my partner it’s trickier.
It’s almost like sex with my partner is higher stakes, like I’m letting them down if i can’t get hard. And that creates a doom loop where I avoid sex with them because I don’t want to let them down.
I worry about losing my erection and making my partner feel bad or upset. It’s at the point now that I try to avoid being intimate.
I do sometimes. mostly when I am tired or anxious
It first started one time when I was in a relationship at 16/17 years old and happened again and again after the fact. Since then I wen to see a doctor and they told me nothing was physically wrong with me. I even got my testosterone tested and the doctors said it was some of the highest they have seen in any teenager. I still got prescribed a low dose of Cialis which did not work. Since then my problems have not gone away to this day. I am 23. While I still have hookups it seldom works the way or the duration I want it to. I don’t watch porn. I dont do drugs. I workout consistently and have never been in a better physical or mental space in my life…besides for my ed problem. I am more reluctant to hang out with girls that really want me to and even worse, it affects my outlook on girls that I truly like and want to start a long-term relationship with. I start worrying about my problem hours, or even days before I go to see a girl that I want to get to know better.
Very bad. My wife and I haven’t had any sex for months. It’s just ruining our marriage. I desperately need help
Lose my erection and fear I will lose it
Yeah I get anxious I’m not sure when it all started, I’ve notice if I have a few drinks I’m fine lol. I know I can perform well in bed but even now when I masterbate I can’t keep one and surely if it’s just me and my penis there should be no anxiety issues. I know a few months back I had anxious issues just in general life but I’ve slow over come them on my own.
Went without sex for over a year. Previously little to no issues.
Now back into the game and I struggle to get an rection and once I get one I lose it quickly. Extremely frustrating since I finally found a women to be with and I feel like I’m a disappointment.
Basically all the time. I’m not super experienced and less than confident in my body and performance. I feel like it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy, I worry about keeping it up and then it won’t stay up. Then the shame cycle begins.
Since getting out of a highly sexually charged relationship, I’m struggling get and maintain an erection with other partners. It seems like it’s a mix of anxiety, and also my sexual desires not being as easily and calmly met by other partners. Feels like I’m starting all over again with sex
I go soft when I think too much about performance
I feel nervous that I won’t preform well.
Recently, I was with a beautiful woman and we were enjoying some foreplay. But it was a struggle for me to stay hard. I couldn’t stop thinking about focusing on the feeling and if I was getting soft (even as she was giving me a helping hand) and I’d she was having a good time. In the end, I wasn’t able to perform and it was kinda embarrassing.
Yes. I feel the pressure to climax as my wife gets upset if I don’t eventhough I really enjoy it. Things have gotten worse and I’m in my head now the whole time we are having sex.
Yes. All the time. I am a very sexually active man and it is constantly bothering me.
Yes , almost everytime, I dwell on it afterwards for days, I take ed medication and it works 90% of the time cause I trust it, I just want to be able to stop using it and get rid of the pre sex nerves
Not anxious during sex, but just before
Usually the first time, and I hate when some people don’t work with me. Brings my confidence down. Once I get past the first few times, I’m very confident and have a good time