Yes
I never had any anxiety…at all…until I was 50 years old. After years of depression, my wife left me and our children. After that happened, I immediately started having issues with anxiety leading up to the sexual encounter and reaching a peak during foreplay. If I could just get through the foreplay and start the intercourse, the anxiety will usually go away, but it is so intense during foreplay that I often loose my erection. Viagra and Levitra are usually sufficient to get me through the peak of the anxiety, but sometimes even the medication is not enough. It is time to address the real root of the problem which is the anxiety.
My partner is a submissive type, and to optimally please her, I feel the need to play the dom. Although I have some dominating tendencies, they’re not naturally strong to the extent that I wish they were. The anxiety of whether she’s buying it puts me in my head during sex, which may be leading to my performance issues.
I had my first sexual experience when i was 16. The girl I was talking to was head over heals attracted to me and wanted to have sex just as much as I did. When I finally picked her up and brought her over, I could not get an erection at all (I was a super horny teenager and very interested in sex and porn). Since then, I’ve had ED for about 40% of new sexual experiences. Once I am able to finally have sex with the partner, then Im good to go at all times but there have been many times where I go home with a BABE, only to not get hard. It seems to be entirely random and depend on who the girl is, and the situation because that other 60%, I can throw it down! Im a touring musician and constantly have beautiful girls throw themselves at me, and feel charismatic enough to pull darn near whoever I want. However its always a gamble if I will be able to get hard and really give them a good time. Im not totally sure where this all stems from, but might have something to do with my penis size. Im pretty sure its 100% average, but also know how much girls love big dicks and thats just something I dont have. I am VERY confident I can pleasure a woman and know how to use my dick really well, and have had COUNTLESS experiences taking girls to heaven, so I feel that overpowers the size thing In my head.
I dont get anxious during sex, it tends to come during foreplay, or when making plans to hang with the girl because I know theres a 50/50 chance my dick wont work and she will have to play with my soft small penis.
It dilutes my sex drive.
My heart starts racing. I get a lot of performance anxiety already thinking in going to cum early. I often feel my body shuts down out of fear of disappointing my partner
i have sex with my wife pretty much every night. it’s always after the kids go to bed. i get anxiety leading up to this because i know when it is going to happen. this started a year ago and got better after 6 weeks, through using viagra. it came back 3 weeks ago and it’s stuck in my head. i don’t know how to get back on track
Of course I do. I’ve come to discover I want a connection with someone but when it comes down to sexual activity I feel like it’s not meant to happen for me.
Yes, I 'm thinking will I be able to keep an erection before iI get inside.
Yeah. Generally only sleep with girls is in a relationship with or close to being in one. So I get anxious right before penetration bc I get 1000+ about what if this relationship doesn’t work. Is this just another wasted connection im making with someone before. I’m 90% sure it stems from my ex that I dated for 5yrs said she’d only miss my “johnson” and nothing else about me. I’m pretty good in bed when I don’t get anxious but now it’s pretty much every time bc all I can think is “Will this connection be ruined and just turn into one based off sex”
Very anxious
I’m 36 and have been trying to enjoy a sex life with my wife. However, I have difficulty getting and maintaining a hard on. Sometimes I can get one, but it won’t be very strong or last for a long period. I get anxious before intercourse because I am worried I won’t be able to finish.
Yes and it is usually at the beginning of relationships or with new people, this tends to make me avoid certain situations. Have had relationships in past and it is fine after some initial hiccups but it has only gotten worse.
I’ve been anxious as of late when have sex or masturbating. My first relationship it was fine but it happened out of no where 3 months after first having sex with my girlfriend at the time. It happened a few times and for the last 9 months .I get an erection then around 30secs to a min later I lose it and struggle to get it going again.
Yes I’m always afraid I’m not big or hard enough or just not doing it right and most the time my brain won’t shut up
Yes, I am only 17, and I will be hard as a rock while cuddling or kissing, but the second I realize I’m actually about to have sex, and I’m not just masturbating, I get soft bc I get anxious about keeping it up. I’ll think things like what if it doesn’t work? Do I really deserve this? It’s almost like I feel like I don’t deserve my partner. She’s extremely understanding, but I want to fuck her so bad like this is absolutely killing me.
Yes I do
The moment I start thinking about whether I can get and or maintain my erection, all my mental focus shifts to that. It’s difficult to specifically not think about something or let your mind wander to it if you have to be mentally aware of what it is without also thinking about it.
Yes. Very. It means my erections go away or never appear to start with.
I usually get anxious before sex, not during. I if I can get an erection during foreplay, I am usually good to go. But lately, I have been getting serious performance anxiety as soon as foreplay starts. My heart starts racing and I have no arousal. It affects my self confidence and I feel that I am letting my partner down. I just can’t get out of my own head.