Yes. It ruins the experience. I will try to keep engaged and in the moment, but will end up totally in my head.
I am always anxious. Sometimes I am anxious worrying about orgasming too quickly. Recently my wife and I have been having a lot of stress with the kids and haven’t had a lot of time for intimacy. Whenever I do try to initiate sex I have been getting shot down for months at a time, which has made me more anxious about it due to wanting it to be great so we can turn a corner and look forward to doing it a little more often again. I think this pressure has made it difficult for me to get an erection and now I am the one letting my wife down so now the pressure is really on me.
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I never used to prior and have had over 20 partners in my life. Only in the last month or so with a new partner have I noticed having an issue. 1st time it wasn’t hard enough. 2nd time it was perfect and no issues and then 3rd time started with an erection and then died completely.
I’m not entirely sure why yet.
I have recently started getting anxious. I am 21 years old, I have had 4 partners, everything was going good, I wasn’t nervous, or anything then one night it just wasn’t working. This has been on my mind since day one. It works well when I watch porn and works ok when I just masturbate, but I don’t do both of them often, maybe 2-3 times a week.
However, ever since that incident, I told my friends and went to multiple walk-in clinics, they understood and told me it was all in my head, I tried listening but it would never leave my mind. Most mornings I got morning woods and ONLY sometimes would I get hard off visual stimulation, but only like 30%. I tried getting my mind off this, but I cannot. I am stressed, depressed and even suicidal at times. I do not want to live like this. I usually go to the gym 3-4 times a week, and I am healthy, my diet is ok, but not great. I really want this to go away, I tried everything, my doctor prescribed some Viagra, and told me I don’t really need it, but gave it to me just because, but the thing is I don’t want to depend on it, I want the problem to be fixed without any pills. I just want help man
Yes I get anxious, I get very nervous, when I’m alone it comes natural to get erect but once I want to please a partner I can’t
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Always, I doubt my abilities to perform in bed
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Yes, wondering if it is ok for partner. Not sure how long I will last, etc. can be very stressful
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Yes. Periodically with my partner, usually with a new partner and I’m stuck in the cycle at the moment with my current partner
Yes
Worried that I can’t get it up
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With the pretense of sex in the picture hours before it even happening, to me buying condoms, to me heading to the check out. I’m severely anxious and nervous if I’ll be enough for them, if I’ll be able to satisfy them. And the thoughts pile up into. Until I’m there in foreplay completely in my head and not paying attention to what’s in front of me being able to slightly get hard but suddenly drop when I go for penetration. It’s horrible
I’m just worried my erection will go away the second I stand up, kneel or stop stimulating my nipples. It usually does.
I never have an issue in the initial stages getting it up I will even be hard when when we start . But as soon as I’m about to penetrate and during foreplay so much comes to my head and I can’t put it up and it’s so frustrating I feel like such a let down . I
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Yes, I do now, not like before
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Yes
Only recently - I had a bad performance one night that left me not hard before we finished, that carried over to the next few nights which caused serious issues in my relationship
I don’t have a problem getting an erection but I have a problem keeping one. I believe it comes from knowing that my girlfriend is way out of my league, has an extensive sexual history, and can easily replace me as a sexual partner. I know none of that matters in the long run and she is in fact in love with me and we’ll get engaged and married soon, but I always have this feeling of needing to please her and make sure she’s happy. This causes me to overthink and worry.
I seem to be able to get hard during foreplay most of the time. The biggest problem tends to be when it come time to put on the condom, I start to panic and then it just goes away.
I then get frustrated and embarrassed even though my girlfriend is extremely supportive. I have mentioned that I have got some Viagra and she wants me to avoid using it as much as possible.
I had my first sexual partner at 18, and I suffered with a mix of porn addiction, masturbation and what I now know was phimosis. I could still get it up relatively easily with my partner, but I couldn’t finish. It ruined my self-confidence and self-image, and I couldn’t fix it with her.
I spent 10 years after the break-up trying and struggling to fix what I thought was the problem. In the last two years I started a new job that was much more sedentary and stressful, and I noticed my overall fitness decreasing, and the quality of my erections decreasing as well.
I’ve recently started seeing a new partner, and I’m finding that while I might be able to achieve a weak erection at the start of foreplay, it’s noticeably weaker than with my first partner, and dies down very quickly. Sometimes I’m struggling to achieve erection myself when I’m with her, and especially when she stimulates me. She is incredibly supportive and understanding, but I feel worried that I can’t do everything she wants me to do with her (i.e. penetration). I’m hoping it’s just anxiety and/or poor cardiovascular health, but I get anxious that it isn’t, that I can’t fix this, and I know that that just feeds the performance anxiety cycle.
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I have been anxious about sex going in 2 - 3 years now. The simple idea of getting in bed to perform a sexual act is triggering great amounts of stress. I always get stuck in a thought loop : is it gonna work or not? will I stay hard and be able to provide great sex for my partner or not? It hinders my performance and makes my partner extremely sad, feeling as if they are not arousing me enough or that I just don’t desire them enough.