The “will she or won’t she” decisions brings on the anxiety big time. It sets up a negative association between intimacy and the desire for it after rejection.
Yes. Not able to get hard.
I get anxious about everything I do and most of all sex. It takes me a while to get comfortable with others. I’m divorced and began seeing someone. we could do things in the bedroom if I lay down and she would pleasure me. but when it came to actual sex suddenly all the negative thoughts came rushing into my head and I couldn’t do anything and became too nervous to do anything I lay in bed my stomach going crazy and my head banging with anxiety. I know I can do it but I let the negative thoughts win. I want to be able to go on dates and have good sex again but the anxiety wins all the time and I fear I may never be able to control or get rid of the anxiety
Fear of not getting hard
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Every time i get to foreplay, even with people i completely trust and know would never judge me, I get doubtful thoughts about wether or not i will be able to get it up or maintain an erection. It lowers my confidence significantly and makes me feel like a let down. I want to be good at sex and make people feel good through penetration.
Short answer, yes. Because it’s happened on previous occasions where I’ve been hard and gone soft…I worry that it’ll happen again. As those thoughts are going through my head before intercourse of course it happens. I find it difficult to overcome this anxiety.
Not ever. Just now. With one person.
Yes. Sometimes
I have performance or erection issues mostly during the second sex within 10-12 hours …
I get anxious before sex. Honestly it has caused me to avoid sex all together. I have been hooking up with this girl for a few weeks now and I’ve come up with a number of excuses to avoid getting in the bedroom because I’m scared that if I do I won’t be able to get it up. I’m trying to avoid that embarrassment but I know that my focus on avoiding the bedroom is the same focus that’s causing the problem.
My performance anxiety comes from PE and not lasting very long. If I do get an erection I will cum very quickly especially after long foreplay to get my wife into it - I’m good for a couple thrusts. I always get worked up and am never able to make her cum with penetration Bc I won’t last. And then sometimes it gets me psyched out that sometimes I’m just super soft and can’t get into it.
Always in a new relationship, or when starting one. Usually I settle in if I can make it work, and then I function just fine. Recently my 15 year marriage started to experience troubles and the stress led to a few hiccups in the bedroom. That loss of confidence snowballed into repeated issues. Compounded by that, more serious relationship issues finally killed the marriage. Now I’m ready to take control of myself and get my life back in order. This is a step along that process
Yes. Constantly. I worry I won’t be able to please her because I won’t be able to get it up or keep it up again.
Yes
It distracts me but usually only when I start to get softer during intimacy
Always I can’t perform because I’m afraid to fail. I never had issues before I use to have up to 3 partners at the time an a very active sex life
I always had paid sex but since first time, it didn’t happened properly. After that sometimes it used to get hard and other time it didn’t work. So I tried taking viagra. It gave my confidence back for sometime but it’s also not a good solution because I can’t rely on that and since I started taking these pills. My stress is on another level
All started doing sexting with random girls in COVID time, where everything was closed. I masturbate from photos that these girls sent me, and eventually I couldn’t get hard, and this later transformed in ED to my hookup with partner
sexual life
Yes, it has recently been affecting me more often as of late, but it’s something that has happened on and off since I started having sex, it is without a doubt at its worst right now and my confidence in the bedroom is at a all time low.
Yes I get anxious that I will not be able satisfy my partner for long. This stresses me out and I am unable to hold onto my erection.
I start thinking about whether it’s hard enough to wear a condom and slide it inside. I start anxiously thinking about it and trying to check. As I focus on that it starts getting softer and that xloses the loop.