Only when it feels forced, I like to get to know a girl more. If it’s a random girl at a party or a bar I might get anxious depending on my mood/ energy that day.
Yes, I get anxious that my election will go away.
My mind just wonders around and I begin to think if I will be able to maintain an erection. Shortly I lose the erection
I do get anxious and very nervous about performing and because I couldn’t get it up with more than one partner different times now I feel it will happen again
I get anxious almost every time I have sex. My mind goes quickly to my use of pornography and the shame of that makes me feel I’ve expended too much of my limited energy on something other than my woman. I feel shame and fear of confessing this weakness to my partner, and that fear takes me out of the mood.
When it’s a girl I am dating and I want to make it work and want to make sure I perform well because I really like her and don’t want to disappoint, that is when I get anxious and that is when I get affected negatively
Yes,
It started towards the end of my marriage. I noticed a change in my ability to maintain an erection. Noticing that then that turned into thinking about every time I have engaged in sex ever since.
I start worrying about my performance and what the other person is thinking.
I tend to get more anxious about the thought of having sex, rather than anxious during sex.
Yes. Feeling ugly and small
I’m currently having an affair with a woman I’ve known for for a long time. I’ve known and been friends with her husband a bit longer.
The woman and I are talking seriously about her divorce and our marriage but ED issues are a major point of conflict. This hasn’t really been an issue in past relationships but the combination of our circumstances, me feeling like she’s “out of league” and her sexual appetite have left me feeling like I’ll never perform to her standards and that sends me spiraling when we start having sex which often ends in weak/no erection.
I have a new partner after a long lay off of not having sex. In the early stages of us having sex she made some comments about what she liked and asking me about my performance which created this psychological block for me. So now the last few times we’ve had sex, ive been erect but once I’m about to insert I become soft and my brain goes into anxiety overdrive. This causes more negative thoughts and questions from her that has created a vicious cycle.
I do, I am completely fine at the beginning then the thoughts of ‘maybe it won’t work’ come in and then I struggle to get a full erection
I just turned 30 and never really thought sex was ever amazing. As a gay man, it’s rather difficult to run away from the idea of not having sex, as then you are seen as not fun, or just not relationship material. I find it really hard to not get down on myself with this situation constantly looming over me. For sure don’t have the self confidence I would like, or the motivation as I just feel inadequate.
I always struggle, either I’m embarrassed by the way I look so I go soft or I get performance anxiety about how I’m not going to make the other person feel good
Half way through sex i start to loose my erection
I have struggled with performance anxiety for about a year. I couldn’t get it up with two different girlfriend that I had. I believe this lead to my relationship ending. It makes me more worried if it happens again and sometimes leaves me feeling really down. I do see this anxiety thou in my life in general and something I need to improve
my straggles started after i got circumcised i believe that it took away most of the feelings from my penis i can get it but its not as hard as it used to be even when i masturbate its not that hard it dose the job but i cant satisfy a women like i used to
I have the feeling that I can’t keep it hard
Sometimes I get anxious or caught in a negative thought loop. This usually results in me getting bored.