Yes Iām always thinking itās not going to work even if Iām taking cialis or viagra. I find myself getting frustrated that itās going to frustrate my partner. Iām now 66 and I feel my penis has atrophied and is smaller when flaccid than years ago. I used to be above average when hard and now I canāt get hard enough to penetrate. I can orgasm with touch but as aroused as I get it still doesnāt reach a full erection.
I canāt get it up but when I do it doesnāt last long
I have no problem when beginning sex but tend to lose it very quickly once the activity gets rigorous.
Yes, I get anxiousā¦ I get hard but lose it when I want / need it mostā¦ probably putting pressure on myself to perform well. Iāve an amazing and understanding new girlfriend but itās me that worries and so want to satisfy her as I believe I should.
I now find myself either avoiding or limiting intimate moments as I fear Iāll let her down and not performā¦
Feel embarrassed
I feel like getting soft lower the pleasure felt both both people.
Very often and cause premature ejaculation
I worry about my energy levels and how long Iāll be able to stay hardā¦ sometimes I just lose all interest in sex
Yes,
Yes I do, itāll be going well and Iāll have an erection worthy to produce satisfying inter course but all of a sudden Iāll think what could go wrong and then slowly but surely it disappears and I make a lame excuse as to why it is like it is. I donāt feel like a man at all. I previously came out of a relationship and the sex was awkward at first but go better, my partner moved away after I went back to school, they treated me bad, communication became less and less, they then cheated on me. Previous partner also said I was crap in bed even though she was telling how insane it was at the time, both left me pretty shoot confident wise. Did not think I could ever trust again.
I often get anxious. I canāt be in the moment. I canāt maintain an erection or sometimes even get one.
I get anxious in anticipation of sex and it affects me every time. My penis doesnāt get hard or if it does, it doesnāt stay hard, even with medication.
Yes, I think my anxiety comes from maintaining an erection rather than getting it up. Like pausing kissing or groping to get undressed causes me to go soft.
I remember the first time I jacked off I could last for hours. I think years of watching porn and overthinking it when it came down to it has lead me where I am now. I tried viagra and it worked the first few times but now has basically no effect. Thatās when I knew it was 100% psychological and thatās why Iām here.
Yes
It makes me soft
When Iām with someone new, sometimes I have performance anxiety but as I get more comfortable with them it isnāt as much of a problem
The negative loop is brutal. Iām a very sexual and sexually adventurous guy. My most recent gf is as well and the first time we went to have sex, for whatever reason I started feeling uncomfortable and lost it. Ever since itās been hit or miss. So frustrating when I KNOW I want to have loads of sex with her, but I donāt try because Iām worried, and then it makes our relationship feel weird.
Honestly I get massive waves of anxiety with every decision I make that is slightly risk to the point it take over all of my thought and the woman Iām with becomes totally not attractive or at least I canāt think about her beauty.
Yes, I struggle to be present and worry a lot about whether Iām going to keep it up and for long enough
Yes. It just happened one day during sex where I went soft for no apparent reason. I got incredibly nervous and worried, as did my long term partner. It has happened a few times now because every time I want to have sex I think about it. This then puts me off having sex and also being affectionate to both my partner and even to myself. I am constantly stressed about it and worry for my future with my partner and my own future.