I feel so worried about pleasing my partner and doing well that i overthink and worry myself instead of enjoying the ride
As soon as I think I might not get an erection it’s already too late. Has ruined many moments. How do I turn this off?
When I’m comfortable with my partner it’s a lot easier but with a random sometimes the fear creeps in and it’s more difficult.
I’m a grower rather than a shower, so I get worried if I don’t get an erection
I have struggled with performance anxiety for all of my life. I am a pretty attractive male who has never had to work too hard to get a woman into bed. I rarely go for this because I know the outcome, and while the embarrassment is starting to fade when I cant its hard to convince a woman it’s not her. Fortunately, I have met someone who has let me try on multiple occasions and doesn’t care if I can’t even though I know it’s gotta disappoint her. I am completely comfortable around her, yet I am still not there. Due to this issue, I feel like I am not at the skill I should be at with sex so now I stress that if I can even get it up, I will know what to do. Do I admit the thing I can bearly admit to myself that I am 23 and have never even had Penetrive sex.
My problem never happens when I am in a one night stand or a person with whom i feel no emotional connection. It is when I start dating someone and feel connected. The pressure to get hard then becomes overwhelming as I know it could be a dealbreaker. Sometimes I can get hard but the 2md time I did with a girl I’ve been dating and really like, I felt too in my head and couldn’t get one. I ended up giving her an orgasm through oral sex but had to pretend I had wind and Stomach pain to excuse not having sex
I get anxious when I first start dating a girl and I know I will be expected to have sex soon enough. That causes my sex drive to tank completely. That’s until I totally end the relationship because of it. Once my brain realizes that I no longer have the pressure of being expected to perform sexually my sex drive comes back again. I’ve tried to date girls without sex but after only a couple dates they start making hints at sex and I just end it at that point.
Yes. Just thinking about finishing to soon and i start to wonder in thoughts lose focus and ultimately finish too soon
Yes, it makes me lose my erection
I am getting anxious during sex in the last months with my wife. I have very low libido in general and when we try the sex seems a bit mechanical. I feel anxious during the sex and start thinking that I won’t have a proper erection. Sometimes after the missed erection we talked and I started to cry. The act of crying triggered something and I did have a proper erection and “normal” sex…
I start thinking about strictly getting hard and it causes me to get anxiety and therefore prevent me from getting hard.
It makes me get in my head and I worry about if I’m performing right or I worry about if I’m clean (I’m gay and versatile so I worry about being “dirty” during sex) and it makes me lose my erection when I worry
Yes, to the point I can’t ejaculate
Since I started seeing my new partner I have felt anxious. She is very beautiful and I pursued her for a long time. Now that I have her, I am so nervous I will disappoint that I can’t keep it up.
It makes me feel like I’m a failure.
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It’s when something ‘goes wrong’ during sex. Like a position isn’t working or she isn’t wet enough yet, or just general nervousness with a new partner. When we’re more comfortable then it’s better because I’m not worried about how they’ll react
It’s all I think about. Am I going to be able to maintain my erection long enough to climax and/or satisfy her
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Yes. I immediately begin to think solely about the erection. I try to focus on getting hard and then when it does not i immediately panic. It affects me because the minute I get fear of losing an erection, its game over.
With my new girlfriend yes, I’ve fancied/loved her for years and now we are an item I’m so worried about disappointing her it’s a flop. I’ve tried viagra that helped but I know it’s mainly
all in the head.