It makes me feel less of a man
Yes, I quite often get anxious during sex. I worry about being able to maintain an erection and the ability to give my girlfriend a satisfying experience. My girlfriend is a lot more experienced than me which adds additional pressure to perform. This pressure purely comes from myself and nothing my supporting partner has said to me. I am very much aware that getting caught up in my head like this will be contributing to my ED and performance anxiety but I find it really hard to break the cycle of overthinking.
I get worried that im about to go soft at any moment and that will make my wife think its her. That i am not attracted to her. Yet i am as i was aroused and the erection gets scared away by my fearful thoughts. Then its a worry about bringing it back up again.
I get anxious before and during sex that I’m not going to get hard, or be able to keep my erection long enough, and that it will go soft. This often puts me off having sex, or makes me want to rush the sex before it goes soft. I wish I could just enjoy the pre-sex and during sex experience without that worry in my head. And to fully trust my dick. This all stems from a fair few experiences in my life where I have gone soft, or remained soft whilst performing foreplay on the girl but worrying in my head that my dick isn’t getting hard, and that makes the situation worse.
I am a 54-year male, never had issues with erections, until a few days ago. I do have anxiety about RE usually only on the first encounter of the night. However, the reason I found Mojo is just the last three or four days, I met this lady and to me, she is the most beautiful I have met. Sexually confident, and I totally turned on, but no erections because I am overrun with anxiety from excitement. I really want and need an erection with this lady.
Yes now I do, it limits blood flow and lowers sex drive some
Yes - I almost always cum too quickly
It happens quite a lot, i feel the pressure of being able to pleasure my partner and give him the experience that has has with his numerous previous sex partners… Even if he says he doesn’t mind, it still doesn’t feel sincere to me, and I get anxious so everything is worse just for my inability to relax myself.
Yes at penetration or when putting on a condom, after about 30 thrusts in one positive or I RE alternatively. Otherwise I think I also causes a guilty RE in general.
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I get scared that I’m going to get soft these days because it’s happened repetitively
Yes, it happened the first time and I’m always worried that it will happen again. I lose my erection within seconds of putting the condom on and me and my partner cannot try new positions due to fear of me losing my erection
yes i get anxious during sex. it often leads me to being so embarrassed where i have walked out on some of my partners
No problem getting an erection, but as soon as I go for penetration - its like it shuts down. I can get it back up - no problem - with a few minutes of foreplay…then nope. if I’m going down on my wife, then no problems going in once I’m done.
I have the issues that I feel that I want it to be prefect for my partner. I want them to fully enjoy the experience joy and the pleasure of sex. By then putting myself under so much pressure makes me anxious and under preform resulting in losing my erection. Then I can see my partner is visibly frustrated and upset about the situation and we find it difficult to talk about it resulting it myself feeling upset and embarrassed about the whole situation.
I know how you feel. This Is a very similar situation as my own.
Yes. Prevents me from performing entirely.
I have definitely gotten in my own head about whether I am hard enough, in the right angle, etc and I get stuck in my head and loose my erection. The times where I don’t worry about that are more of the times where I don’t have any issues.
I get performance anxiety with some women right before having sex for the first time. It makes me feel ashamed, sad, and more anxious for not understanding why this happens when I know for a fact that I don’t have ED. I was with the same partner for 8 years and it didn’t happen for most of those years. I am now single and with a bit of fear of it happening again.
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Yeah I think it affects the way I think about if my penis is going to stay up and also asking the question of am I about to disappoint this person
What i feel, when i have sex with my girlfriend is, if i am good enough, self doubt gets better of me . I get stuck in my mind, erection goes down and leads me to feel embarrassed.
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