Cum to quick and cannot keep hard enough
Often I get so anxious about keeping an erection and showing my partner a good time, it stops me from being able to feel any physical sensations, without them and my mind focused on performing, it’s a losing battle which I keep beating myself up about
yes. i regularly lose an erection and the shame sets in
Yes
Every time! And it makes me overthink it
Yes, but also during masturbation, or even just when looking at a woman! If i don’t immediately feel aroused - which i hardly ever do these days - i get anxious that things aren’t working properly.
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When having sex, my first though is “How can I make this pleasurable for the other person?” Which puts a lot of pressure on me and makes me anxious. This also makes me think of sex as a task rather than something to be enjoyed myself and has the effect of lower my desire to do it. So then I struggle to get it up.
Finally get to have sex with two girls at the same time and now finding that I am having performance anxiety not able to get an erection when a beautiful girl standing right in front of me willing to do anything I want quite embarrassing
Not really
Yes, I I get anxious about having sex. In the past I have had trouble getting an erection in the moment just before sex and because of that I have developed a fear that this will continue to happen. I worry about what my partner may think of me and I also worry that I am failing them in this aspect of our relationship. As a result, I feel a lot of anxiety and doubt which just creates a vicious cycle.
I tend to always get anxious during sex, it starts off well. But as soon as its time to get down to business, I become painfully aware of not being erect, and while my partner is waiting, the pressure builds and it becomes a horrible feedback loop of “I need to get hard, I’m not getting hard, oh no I really need to.” These experiences often leave me with a deep feeling of shame and hopelessness. I’ve tried medication, that didn’t help. Which made the feedback loop worse. Since the end of my relationship and trying to date again, these problems have completely zapped my confidence and left me not even wanting to try dating anymore, as then I won’t be embarrassed once again.
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I think of the ‘what if’ I don’t get hard and that stresses me out leading to me not getting hard or losing it.
I used to be very anxious during sex which led to ED(peformance anxiety) but now ive overcame that through meditation But my penis is not hard enough for me to a condom on , putting on a condom or penetration might make a lil bit anxious but not enough to take over my mind So i need to know how can i get hard hard erections when im with my partner not just when im alone ?
Yes i do. I think it amplifies my rapid ejaculation issues
Absolutely, I’m inexperienced and it almost feels like I’m in over my head. I can’t stop thinking that I’m going to mess it up or look awkward or something. I get so focused on what could go wrong that nothing goes right.
I have been loosing my erection, literally in the moment just before sex and it is when I get in my head. Then it just a downward spiral of it not working.
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Before I start everything I am all ready worried.I last secs not even 1 minute and I lost my family over it.If I can do everything about it It will make me happy
Yes I get anxious always before sex inevitably I end up losing erections I take loads of cilias and viagra
Yes, certainly when sex has been suggested but nothing has started yet. Also I suffer badly from spectatoring, so as soon as my erection begins to fade, my anxiety levels increase.
You not the only one, I been with my gf for 3 years and it came back to happening again. It’s happened 5-10 so far and it’s killing me inside and I don’t want her thinking it’s her