Porn used to arouse me, but now it just gets my heart rate up. I enjoy watching it, but I feel more worked up and anxious after watching it, and I donāt get hard.
Porn gave me the impression that if you donāt have a giant, hard dick all the time, then your wife, gf etc will run out and find someone who does.
No
You need to be rock hard and have sex In multiple positions for long periods of time
That men are rock hard and ready to go straight away and throughout.
Iām increasingly āobsessedā (to a degree) with more and more āradicalā acts (though nothing truly crazy). Things like āCOFā in particular. I donāt want to do things like that with my wife so it ends up being a constant temptation. Also I think Iām squeezing too hard. Not the dreaded ādeathā grip but tighter than I can likely experience from vaginal sex.
itās much easier for me to get aroused and finish when watching porn vs having sex. itās hard to get the visual stimuli with sex and Iām used to the death grip from masturbating. I have been working on that though from the previous lessons
Yes I have. Times where it has been boring or does not feel good and I think of A hot pornography scene to get through it. And the times that I have had really good incredible mind blowing sex itās because it was a very much like a porno
Because of past religious shame and fear around porn (and masturbation), I avoided porn as much as I could in my younger years and now I think I need to use it to help me reset my body to enjoy erotic stimuli. Maybe the choice of porn can help manage the comparisons and expectations? I definitely donāt want to add to my problems through increased use of porn.
I struggle to find the balance between getting hard and cumming too quickly. If sex is more visual, especially in certain positions, then I can cum almost immediately. I believe this is tied to the type of porn I watch and how easily I get aroused by the visual aspect of it. If I am having sex in missionary, I often find it harder to get aroused as I dont have the visual stimuli. Having said that, I dont I lose my erections due to the lack of visual stimuli. I just find its less arousing and I sometimes have to visualise a scene from porn or visualise my partner in a certain position, or sometimes just visualise what we would look like if I was watching us have sex like you would see in porn.
Sometimes. Penis hardness āhow do they do thatā. āThey must be on viagraā.
I think I compare my ability to please my partner to porn. It gives you the sense that women cum constantly during sex, moan throughout, and canāt get enough. I need to recognize the signs that my partner is enjoying herself, even if they donāt match what Iāve seen in porn.
Iāve learned two things:
Firstly, that porn alone does give us an expectation of what a partner should look like. We focus on the standard view of a sexual person as young and perfectly shaped. This is also the fault of the images of men/women in movies, TV and media that we observe (and, crucially, grew up observing).
Secondly, that this expectation is completely unrealistic. It does not match the partners weāre with; it also precludes us from finding older people sexual. The body changes over time, especially after a certain age, and porn causes/allows us to forget this.
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The only real problem is if you get into a certain kink or fetish it effects what you think about during sex. I struggle with this and often have to fantasize about a certain scenario during sex to finish.
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A lot more clunky and now as smooth/fluid at times as it seems it always is on porn
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Learned to have sex by watching porn so all of it is expectations
That my penis needs to be bigger.
I believe I do compare my sexual experiences to porn, in the sense that it should last longer than it usually does, I should be much bigger and harder throughout and the girl should get much more enjoyment.
Looking at Reddit women has driven me to think I need the absolute most beautiful bodies to have sex with. Seeing an 8 inch cock spread a pussy is really satisfying, and it makes me put my own down. The idea of a woman seeking out extramarital partners for a more pleasing experience is enticing but makes me feel like Iām not god enough.
I try not to compare myself to porn bc I know itās fake and unrealistic. I do wish I could perform like the pornstars and such but I know it takes time cuz these dudes are either on stuff but more or less, itās their job if that makes sense.
Yes. I donāt watch much porn but if I see a huge ass dick then I feel sorta like I donāt measure up (inner critic on penis size). Also the ability to do several different positions, and Iām inexpensive in sex so donāt know if I can do it. But I get extremely turned on with great erections to porn but not in real life.