I have been trying to quit porn for a month because it definitely effects my sexual life but keep relapsing like every two days. I am going to document my journey here by posting everyday to see if it helps. My goal is a week and hopefully I can go a month. Let’s get it
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I wouldn’t try to go cold turkey right away, because you will likely fail. Some people can do it, but I couldn’t… Will power is a resource that runs out eventually and relapsing will worsen the situation because your brain will learn that it just has to crank up the cravings in order to get what it wants.
I had success in trying to schedule it and toning it down gradually. Btw I don’t think that watching vanilla porn say once a week will heavily impact your sex life. Also, I would not stop masturbating (unless you have sex regularly). I think masturbating 3-4 times a week should be perfectly fine.
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Yeah it’s not really the masterbation I get that’s natural I just find myself watching pretty unrealistic porn that totally desensitizes me. And it’s definitely more then once a week. And because of this I have had ED issues in the past. I want to prove to myself I can at least go a week without porn
If you can’t go a week without it, that’s definitely a bad sign. I always try to completely avoid unrealistic porn and fantasies. I focus on stuff that is realistic for me to do with my wife. Good luck!
Good luck, man! Many of us on here have similar struggles. Cold turkey can be done. It’s not easy for sure, but for many of us the idea of only using porn occasionally quickly slides into compulsive use. Checking in and accountability are a great idea. You’ve got this!
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Thanks!
Been off it for about two years now.. you can do it
Did it help with psychological ED?
I’m not this person, but I’m around 100 days in (with two slip-ups) and it’s done wonders for psychological ED, sex drive, confidence, no guilt, etc. Just know you’ll probably go through some lulls and dead periods. Just keep pushing through! You’ve got this! If you can do it one day, you can do it the next, and the next….
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It has helped me on a personal level but I still use my imagination instead to masturbate.
The real issue i have is having erections with my partner, that I havent been to have or cure over the last 8 years if I am honest.
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Do you still masturbate though? Or not
I’ve also given up porn, so far! But still masturbating… is that going to affect anything or not?
It shouldn’t, but do try to switch up the way you masturbate, change the grip, and focus on your senses and sensations. I’m incredibly anti-porn, but I don’t understand the anti-masturbation crowd. It’s a good thing!
I think masturbation is even helpful to some extent, since it allows to connect to your sexuality. But even without porn you can overdo it with masturbation. During a period of time when I was off porn completely I used to masturbate like 2-4 times a day and I felt like it has heavily decreased penis sensitivity, which causes ED and DE. I try to stay at at most once daily and ideally a few times a week.
I have stopped watching porn for about 5 weeks and when i masterbate or edge i mentally picture having sex with my girl exclusively. It has definately helped because i can keep hard fantasizing about her in different positions. I have had successful erections a couple times with her since and was able to stay hard for us both to cum.
Post divorce I was 2-3 times a day and going down the porn rabbit hole. I slowed waaay down on both. 1-2x per week. Seems to have helped. I still stop 2-3 days before I’m seeing GF. In a year, it’s gotten so much better. I can somewhat reliably get hard (usually 70% is enough for sex) and when it goes away I can usually get it back by rubbing it on her or sucking her toes (she loves it! And listening to her react gets me going!)
I’m no longer in panic mode. I still take Rugiet most times…. 30 min under the tongue and I’m good. I do need to wean myself off of it…