I’m not an experienced guy and when I was trying to stick my penis in, it was so tight that I couldn’t get it in because it was bending my hard penis. That hurt. Maybe I wasn’t hard enough or couldn’t find the hole. Any advice on a situation like this would help. Stopped having sex cause of it.
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Did you try foreplay? Even if she is into it, it can take a while until she’s ready.
I’d be focusing on her more. Play with her more and eat her out etc until she says she is ready.
Girls sometimes struggle with self lubricant the same way guys struggle with being erect. Perhaps a conversation about lube
Most times it takes some effort to get her ready.
Mine takes 15-20 min of making out, some playful teasing and massaging her pussy. Some women don’t get very wet- the same as us not getting hard. Doesn’t mean they’re not turned on, it’s hormonal.
Don’t make a big deal about it. Just get your finger wet with saliva or a good lube. We like Woo lube. It’s made from coconut oil, works great and tastes good.
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Be as cool as you’d like her to be about not being hard, give her options, carry on playing, lubricate with your mouth and saliva ( our favourite), get some fun flavour lube. Even if she’s wet, lube makes it even better, frame it like that.
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I have the same problems with my wife. If i don’t get it in the first couple of tries i do get somewhat bummed out. I gotta work on that.
Hi, I’m quite experienced and I’m happy to help! Sounds like she might not be wet enough. Everything should be good and slippery before you even try to insert! Try going down on her. Your saliva will help lubricate and it’ll likely turn her on making her more wet. Some women have trouble getting wet the same way some men have trouble getting hard so don’t be afraid to try lube if oral sex doesn’t do the trick! Most (but not all) women really enjoy receiving head.
The actual hole is lower than you’d expect. Closer to the front is her clitoris and urethra. Once everything is nice and wet (including your penis!) slide the tip up and down applying light pressure. It should slip in easy at the bottom!
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in addition to the good advice about lubrication, is it possible you’re having trouble finding her vaginal opening? It’s ok to find it with your fingers first and then hold your penis and guide it in!
This could be due to tight foreskin - read on phimosis as this is an issue I have had - I had to get the snip and have never looked back’
I mount my girl from behind and if we are rushing and she hasn’t had time to get wet, I put a little saliva on the top of the head of my penis then I hold it up from underneath near where her vagina is and start to pump and I slide in every time.
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