I just wondered whether a flashlight could help with performance anxiety? I can get an erection but the very minute I go to penetrate and it just goes away. I can erect when masturbating so I don’t know if there just isn’t any difference really. Just a thought and wondered if anyone had tried this.
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I got a cheaper one through hellocake (great website, products, and price point). It’s been a little helpful getting me to chill and experience the pleasure. I’ve found I get hard, penetrate/play and go soft. It’s kinda an up
And down thing. But it’s helping me pay attention to my pleasure and not worry about cumming or performance or anything else.
If you can afford one I’d say try. They feel very different to real holes tho.
but if you place it between a bed frame and mattress and fuck it maybe the sensation will help for sex?
good luck 
Not sure it’ll help with anxiety directly, but I have a couple I’ve been using to mix things up a bit, to try to get used to changing positions and tightnesses. I felt like I was getting into a rut with my one death-grip masturbation technique.