Answer the 4Ds and share how you’re going to get the bond you want

Discovery: In the past, talking about shared goals, shared memories, insecuroties, our dreams, new experiences.

Dream: Feeling a seamless bond with someone who is my rock. A deep friendship, kind and loving to my children, constantlyvseeking new expwriences together, a peerless sexual bond and high libido, good finances that allow us to pursue our lifestyle.

Design: Continue self-work, seek new ways to express vulnerability, continue paying iff debt and improving finances, keep developing string parenting skills, stay in good physical health, tell her about my goals and ask if she shares them.

Destiny: Being open, secure, strong, trustworthy and responsible, which will bring up the rest if my loved ones as well.

We’ve been through a tough patch with my health and work, so in the past we used to be very connected, I dream of reigniting those connections and get to know each other again. We need to design more time for each other and communicate more. Destiny I guess is supporting each other and owning our hang ups and worries and sharing them.

Discovery: working towards goals together, solving problems together, discussions various relationships in our lives, exercising

Dream: being connected, playful, affectionate throughout the day. checking in and showing each other that we’re thinking about each other

Design: can get more help with the kids, try to be less busy

Destiny: not sure, might be a long-term goal as the kids get older

Discovery: understanding each other more than we understand ourselves. Kindness, consideration, support. Always looking out for one another regardless of the circumstances

Dream: loving family that encompasses all of the above. Waking up to a smile and cuddle, taking children to school, watching Netflix in the evening, travelling around the world and seeing different sights. A family unit.

Design: I must be more caring & understanding, and move towards as many bids for attention as I can. Must be more forgiving to myself and more present with my partner, don’t worry too much about what’s going on up in my head! Smiling more, experiencing more together, and not being afraid to talk about the happier deeper stuff such as feelings and connection.

Destiny: always being aware and never becoming complacent. If I feel myself slipping back into old habits, meditate particularly on gratitude or something similar. Remember to smile and offer help autonomously wherever possible


Our connection is still very strong with a lot of humour and conversation
Regain the physical connection
Responding to bids more often, show willing to be vulnerable and communicate difficult conversations more often
Have time together each day/night. Commit to me and her time doing or talking about anything

Discovery: We can have fun together, laugh at simple things together, enjoy each other simply by being around each other even though we do different activities. We care about each other and want to support each other.

Dream: A future where we can live together splitting our time together between our two cities and supporting each other’s careers and aspirations while using our love for each other as the foundation.

Design: We need a deeper connection. We both need to want this future together. I need to better read her communication cues and respond deeper to them. Penetrative sex will come too if I can inspire her to help arouse me.

Destiny: Conscious effort on my part to read her cues. Conscious effort to try to get her aroused without seeming like I am being rude or interrupting whatever she is doing or talking about. I need to also have the confidence in how to be myself around her… not change who I am, what I say, how I behave. Just be myself and kindle our flame based on us being ourselves.

We are interested in the same things - in sync
Future we will accept and love more.
Design - to open and love more
Support of conscious beings around us

The best part is to belong to a team. To carry each other forward.
We’ve created a little family and we continue to support each other and find comfort in our little home.
We need to get pregnant and support ourselves through that. And to survive parenthood we need to become even more understanding and supportive.
We might need to get better at trusting ourselves. That things will work out even without us stressing so much.

Discovery: the sex, the activities, the communication.

Dream: one where I have a happy and fulfilled sex life with a woman who I’m attracted to, mutual respect, and curious to know more about each other.

Design: go out and meet women that meet the requirements. Like the sexual chemistry, the expectations in the dynamic, and ability to communicate.

Destiny: I’m committed to it now. I’ve been daily speaking and meeting women most times. Learning from the experiences and growing the dynamic.