Discovery: We have been able to talk through everything that comes up and come out stronger. We can talk for hours, and both love physical affection.
Discovery: We have been able to talk through everything that comes up and come out stronger. We can talk for hours, and both love physical affection.
Dream: The best future I can hope for is that we live the rest of our life together, and eventually start a family.
Design: I need to openly communicate about EVERYTHING. We are partners in this and getting through it. I can’t hold things in. But I need to be willing to put in the work. I need to always be attentive to her needs, and in turn, she will be attentive to mine.
Destiny: I will commit to always putting in the energy even when I feel like it’s not there. Always keeping my eyes open for these bids, and always reciprocating because I know what it feels like coming the other way.
Destiny: I just need to SEND it.
Discovery: l like being in a relationship for the bond. Someone to share ideas with to do things with and make plans with.
Dream: To find that comfortable bomd again and discover new ways to maintain it
Design: I will put myself back out there, this time with more openness.
I am currently in the beginning stages of a relationship. There is a mutual curiosity and interest in just about anything the other had to say. The conversations are deep, raw and real as we get to know eachother intimately.
My dream is to have a partner of equal value to myself in the relationship. A true team player who supports my values, decisions, and ambitions. I want someone who will explore the world and embark on a lifetime of adventures with me.
I need to strengthen my finances. I also need to get better at committing to hobbies in order to maintain my independence and identity.
I will achieve this by communicating these values to my partner. Expressing my interests in living a life we deserve. Let her know the areas I struggle with so when she sees me slipping she can offer me a hand to get back up. I will invite her to share the same 4 D’s with me. When she gets vulnerable with me I will listen, learn and remember.
Discover: We are so interested in one another and enjoy participating in the same bonding activities together, ensuring that we spend time connecting with one another
Dream: To still have a burning passion for one another, and be genuinely excited to see the other person at the end of our work days, and continue to live a vivid lifestyle laughing together
Design: To get there, we need to maintain solid communication and continue to build our connection to one another, ensuring we put time aside for different facets of life
Destiny: We can commit to that through discussion and starting to practice the methods to achieve our goal
Discovery: The best parts of relationships have been the getting to know someone and feel like they get you. Sharing your fears and your dreams with one another and just enjoying spending time together.
Dream: I want to find a relationship with that foundation with someone who is ready to talk about the deeper issues of a relationship and not shy away when it gets difficult.
Design: This will require getting out of my head and talking to more women I find attractive and prioritizing character over physical attractiveness.
Destiny: I commit to talking to a new woman at least once a week. I could use the support of friends/a friend group who are more outgoing and willing to go out and meet people.
Separated for two years, in my mid-40s. ED since end of marriage. Into a newly budding relationship (already had one semi-serious one that ended about a month ago). Fifth date tonight.
Discovery: aside from obvious physical attraction (she is distractingly beautiful), I’ve found we share so much in common (not everything but a lot) and the conversation has been seamless and unforced.
Dream: not necessarily living together, although maybe, but would be nice to see her at least two or three times a week, make plans for getaways and weekends together, and have each other welcomed into our families for dinners and holidays, etc. We live our lives but there’s nothing secret or clandestine. I have two kids from previous marriage (she has none) so there’s that dynamic to navigate. My ex-wife and I are still on good communication terms so likely some overlap there in the future with any new long-term serious partner.
Design: for now, nothing to be forced. Eventually I’ll have to have the “conversation” about my erectile issues and determine if she’s comfortable with an expanded and patient version of sexuality. Current woman I’m seeing hasn’t been in a relationship for 5 years herself, so there’s likely a story there that I’ll need to be trusted with as well. Clearly she is patient, which could be a positive for my current situation.
Destiny: I have a wide range of comfort and understanding on my side. That is one of my strengths. I know what I like, and when I find it I can adapt to make it work (provided the partner reciprocates…it’s not a one-way street). I need the same from my potential partner as well. Whether it’s this current woman or someone in the future. I don’t imagine my erection issues ever being completely a thing of the past now, so treatment and creativity (with lots of communication, patience, and understanding) will be required. Aside from that, though, I’m a good man – just need to find someone I like who likes me and who’s in sync with my sexual reality. Hopefully it’s this woman I’m seeing now…keep your fingers crossed for me!
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Discovery. Seeing someone. We and feels like we’ve completely locked which is lovely. The spiritual connection is the best thing about the relationship and we started off being very open and honest which is amazing too.
Dream: to be able to see each other out in the open - I am near the end of my divorce she is at the star of hers.
Design: keep supporting each other as we navigate all the challenges divorce throws up. Make the most of the time we have together; keep communicating and having fun.
Destiny: we have a dream to buy a house together in a beautiful place and do it up. That’s what we’re aiming for!
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Discovery: Love, and Great Care
Dream: Love each other immensely and have the nicest relationships ever!
Design: I need to remove some internal stress blocks that block my libido, after that I can find a girl.
Destiny: Perhaps I need to talk to therapist or read more about boosting my libido
Discovery: Love and Affection for Each Other, Cuddling Almost Every Morning and Evening, Making Jokes about Everything, Supporting Each Other’s Group, Accepting Each Other’s Imperfections (aside from my ED)
Dream: Living the relationship that we are building for decades without the tension arising from my ED and my partner’s unmet sexual needs. Rediscovering my desire and arousal during sex rather than stressing about meeting my partner’s needs and keeping the relationship together.
Design: Let go of my expectation and desire to satisfy all my partner’s sexual needs. Connect with and feel my sexual desire
Destiny: Do Mojo everyday, talk about my ED with my therapist every session, and talk with my partner more about my ED
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Discovery: Showing affection and desire, paying attention, having fun together, supporting each other and being a team to improve the life that we both share.
Dream: living together, helping, caring and sharing experiences and meaningful moments (both individually and together),
Design: nothing needs to change, we need to keep building our relationship, continue being present in our lives, starting to live together.
Destiny: I feel that I’m already committed and I can see that she’s on the same page.
Discovery: We’re responsive to one another. We have shared values. We both want to build something. It’s easy being around each other. The chemistry’s great. I feel proud to be with her.
Dream: Super open communication. A dynamic sex life. Going on adventures together. Lounging around together.
Design: Need to talk about our sex life a bit more explicitly and openly. It’d be nice to go dates that are both more low-key and others that are more adventurous.
Destiny: Talk about sex during our next date.
Discovery: The best parts are the joy we bring to each other and the adventures we have together. Also the quiet moment just in each other’s presence
Dream: I hope for a future where we are exploring and adventuring around the world together. Having new and exciting experiences. Then having kids and taking them with us on those adventures
Design: I need to rebuild my self confidence, sexually and otherwise. This will provide the fuel to strengthen our relationship and my own life. Leading to the joy filling up the relationship. I need to also slow down and take in every moment.
I need to be confident, and also be willing to take risks. Often times I feel like I don’t put myself out there enough and then obviously I can’t reap any reward.
Support and intimacy (without sex) are some of my favorite parts of a relationship. Often, in the beginning of a new relationship, I have a hard time asking the difficult questions. So, today, I’ll ask the hard questions and see where they lead.
Communicating consistently is a start. Haven’t ever really given it a lot of thought. I can use this as a part of the 4D cycle.
Communication and commitment from my partner… I would like she is more independent and she trust me more… I really want to make a team with her forever
Teamwork and doing thing together