For context, I am a healthy 25-year-old who has long struggled with performance anxiety-related ED. After years of struggling, I turned to Viagra to help which it has. I have used this medication on only 6-7 occasions. But recently I met an amazing girl who I see a future with and I have been feeling extremely guilty about using these medications as a crutch (she doesn’t know that I’ve been taking them). Recently the guilt has been so bad that it has started to impact my ability to achieve an erection while masturbating and decreased my confidence.
I am hoping to find a way to get off these medications and stop using them as a crutch. My current plan is to slowly taper off them–reducing the dose over the next couple of sexual experiences. However, I’m considering just throwing them away altogether and just being upfront about my problems and forcing myself to accept reality. Does anyone have any advice on which option is best going forward?
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I am going through the same thing with cialis. I started feeling performance anxiety with my partner as soon as I realized this was someone I don’t want to lose, and I got a blue chew subscription.
I kind of look at it this way: Would anyone bat an eye of if I was taking anxiety meds? So why would they bat an eye if I was taking something to alleviate my anxiety around intimacy with my partner. It’s not to make my body work, my body works fine. It’s to give myself a little edge of confidence so that I can be more in the moment.
I hear you on her not knowing and feeling guilty. I feel the same way and am trying to figure out how to navigate that. Know that you are not alone, you are not doing anything wrong, you are taking care of yourself and taking steps to mitigate halters in your intimacy.
Thank you for sharing. You’re a boss and you’re killing it. Have grace for yourself.
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I’m in the exact same situation and have struggled with this off and on for years.
I feel your pain as you feel so alone. Reading everyone else’s stories I feel that communication is the best strategy with your partner. Making the goal to pleasure for her and seeing what happens with yourself
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Thanks for sharing this. I am on the same boat. I have struggled with severe performance anxiety ever since I first slept with a woman, and this year I turned 25 and decided to do something about it.
I’ve always taken very small doses, and on one occasion I spent my entire weekend together with my girlfriend. I decided I’d take it on Friday and Saturday night, and see what happened on Sunday. On Sunday we woke up and after having had sex all weekend I felt very comfortable and at ease and was able to go without any pills. It wasn’t perfect, but being calm and relaxed helped a lot.
Hang in there. Thanks for sharing
As stated earlier- nobody would bat an eye at BP or anxiety meds-
I don’t feel guilty taking them even though they only have a small effect when I’m with my gf. My PED doesn’t allow them to work very well.
With that said- I tried last night and again this morning and only got a semi this morning. Even tho she did her BEST with her mouth and hands…. No meds… 
