Hey everyone, I’m 19 and have been struggling heavily for about two years now with ED. It’s been incredibly hard, frustrating, and confusing for me. Prior to my issues starting, girls were a major part of my life and I loved sex and had it quite often. Now I haven’t had sex in nearly 2 years because of this. Struggling with this for so long now has brought me to a pretty tough place mentally and sometimes it feels like this will never go away. At first I thought there might be something physical going on that’s preventing me from getting an erection but given that I can get hard watching porn that didn’t seem to make sense. I’ve been porn free for just over a week now and am questioning if it’s even worth it to quit. My thinking was that I’ve gotten so used to watching other people have sex that it doesn’t interest me anymore. I’ve been watching basically the same kind of porn my whole life. I’m pretty embarrassed to admit what kind of porn but it’s along the lines of cheating. I can only get hard at the thought of certain things like being cheated on. I don’t know why this is because I have been cheated on before and it’s no fun. I really need some help and some people to talk to.
Studies show that your brain needs about 6-9 months to heal from porn addiction. Just give it time though because the recovery speed is unique to the person. My advice would be to attempt to stop masturbating as well. But also, seem the best things in life. Don’t let your ED be because of psychological reasons although that would be best cause at least it will be up to you to fix it. Good luck man.
I would also advise seeking out God and living a healthy lifestyle. Surround yourself with the best people. People who you know love you. Go get shredded. Boost your test. Just take care of yourself in general. LOVE YOURSELF, not to the point where you need to be humbled. But do appreciate yourself
Seek out your demons. Face them. Defeat them. Make peace with any traumatic experience. Sex is all about letting go, being in the moment. So let all of your fears go.
Thanks man. It’s confusing because there’s so many different viewpoints on porn and masturbation. It seems like even though mojo doesn’t think it’s much of a factor most of the people on here do. Really appreciate the reply. Cheers
Thanks man. I definitely think getting shredded might be what I try next. I’m in good shape but that’s mostly due to good genetics because I don’t work out. Thanks for the reply much appreciated. Cheers
No problem bro! I hope everything works out for you. But we also have to remember, there are so many other great things about life. Those things, pursue. Go find and do what you love. Sex is great but there are greater things to enjoy. ED is not the end all be all. ED tends to steal our identities as men away from us. But as a believer in Christ (I don’t know if you believe) finding my identity in Christ has brought so much more purpose and reason to my life. Almost like my wants and desires are what Christ’s are. So like if things don’t go the way I want to, I always try to think about what Jesus wants. And living for and serving Him is so fulfilling. I thought I would put that in there. I want to try help.